CosmoGIRLs Ask, Moms Answer

CosmoGIRLs Ask, Moms Answer

Wednesday, November 28, 2007

What teens really want to ask their own Moms, but are afraid to ask.

Our friends at CosmoGirl asked their readers: What's the one question you'd like to ask Moms? We promised to deliver real, honest answers as only Mom•Logic can. Check out the following question from Samantha, then share your Mom Logic.

"My mom doesn't trust me. I had problems in the past where I lied a lot, but now that I'm trying to change, she won't give me the space to do so. How can I show her that I really do want to tell the truth if she won't even give me the opportunity?"
- Samantha, 17

Our Mom•Logic...

"What really works for me and my daughters, is for us to be honest about how we feel and admit when we make mistakes. I think it could be good for you, first of all, to tell your mom that you feel hurt and frustrated that you’ve lost her trust. Tell her that you realize you screwed up by lying to her in the past—and you regret that now. And then communicate to her that you hope she’ll give you a chance to prove that you can change. As time goes by, I’m confident you’ll restore her trust in you!" - Jill, Mom of two

"You have to earn your mom's trust again. And that might take some
time. I know it's frustrating to pay for your past mistakes, but it's
got to be done. Don't break curfew. Don't sneak out. Don't lie. Once
your mom sees that you are on the straight and narrow (and are
genuinely remorseful about your past actions), she'll probably loosen
the reins." - Kim, Mom of three

"You really have to stop lying COMPLETELY—it's going to take time, but she will start trusting you again. Just know that if you slip and lie again, you may never get her to trust you again." - Lisa, Mom of two

What's your advice for Samantha? Share here.

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I wish people in the “show” business would realize that we, the general public, are tired of the “It’s all about celebrities every day, every moment” How about some real news, world news, every day stuff that we need to know about and do not have time…We really do not care about Britney, celebrity baby names, tell me about real people

- carol shepherd

Posted 11/29/07 10:10 AM

Huh? This IS about real people…Samantha is not a celebrity. My advice for Samantha is that you need to have a heart to heart with your mom and just ask her what you need to do to win her trust back. Then do it.

- Janet

Posted 11/29/07 10:59 AM

I think that you should tell your mom that you are a changed person or trying to change! Your lying was only a face that you may have been going trough, but you have realized the consequences of lying, even if it is little things you may have lied about. And even if your mom is not shoving you that trust you need or want, keep on doing the right thing, and sooner or later you will realize that the trust has been regaind. And remember everything in life takes time, the longer it takes the better it is once it happens!

- tihana

Posted 12/06/07 11:26 PM