I am a mother of three ages 14, 7, & 5. I spank sparingly meaning only when necessary if the incident can harm themselves or others. I also stop and stare until I get their attention and speak in low voice tones because they have to be quiet to hear what I say. It works they listen. I talk to them and ask questions/opinions. I can’t remember when the last time I had to spank anyone.

I’m a firm believer in spankings. I think my kids only ever got one or two spankings in their entire life, but since they knew what it was, all I have to do is give them “the look” and they start behaving or acting appropriately. My kids are 14 and 12 now and are very well adjusted kids who know their boundaries and that I am the “boss”. I believe it is in part, because of spankings.

It is demeaning to be hit. Who is in charge here? If you can’t control yourself and act like an adult, you are teaching your child that hitting someone is the way to get their attention. I feel that women who have sons are just teaching them that hitting is ok. So when they are adults, it will be “Ok” to hit your wife, daughter, girlfriend, because “Hey, my mom hit me to get my attention and now I’m hitting you to show you that I disagree with what you are doing.”

If your child is throwing a trash can over the side of your balcony, maybe you should lock the patio door and put your child somewhere safe like their crib or their room as a punishment. If their room is too “fun” to be a punishment, maybe you should take some of the games and toys away as punishment before you start batting them around.

Mom22,
I read your comment so I watched the video again. She said she did try time outs first before spanking. I think putting a kid in their room as punishment is bad because then you’ve got a toddler who doesn’t want to go to bed because it feels like punishment.

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I was spanked as a kid when I did something I’d already been told not to do. My dad recently told me of one time when we (my mom, dad and sister) were at a restaurant and I was crying about something silly (i.e. i want the *blue* cup) and my dad told me to stop crying a several times, then warned that he’d spank me if I didn’t stop. I kept crying and then he spanked me right there in the restaurant once or twice. I never cried in a restaurant again :)

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Spanking can definitely be an effective way to ensure a child avoids dangerous behavior. When I was about 5 or 6 my Mom warned my sister and me about playing in a room in the basement with the electric boxes, etc. After flicking some of the switches we turned off the electricity to some of the rooms. My mom who was divorced was able to figure out and undo what we did. She then put us over her knee for that. When she recently retold that story I asked why she reacted the way she did she said that we may have realized the seriousness of playing with the electricity, but we definitely remembered the spankings we got and we never touched those things again.

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