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PiscesTyra Banks: Mothers on the Brink
Tyra talks to Moms about the dark side of motherhood.
Today, Tyra sat down with Moms who were suffering from postpartum depression and had thoughts of harming their children. Mom•Logic friend and psychotherapist Jill Spivack joined Tyra for this discussion to help these parents make sense of their feelings. Jill gave us some tips on how new Moms can transition into motherhood in a healthy way.
1) Prioritize what absolutely needs to be done. Don't worry about things like returning phone calls or thank you notes. And remember to ask for help with stuff around the house. Focus on the baby and yourself.
2) Sleep when the baby sleeps. It's easier said than done, but VERY important. You need sleep in order to care for your child with love and patience.
3) Get realistic about how your body has changed. Don't expect to bounce back like Angelina Jolie! It takes time to get back in shape.
4) Protect your marriage. Know that there are stages in a marriage and that in the first year of parenthood, you're likely to feel more disconnected as you bond with your new little baby. Remember to communicate with your husband, and make sure you both share your feelings.
5) Prioritize good sleep habits for your baby. Start a bedtime routine that can include a bath, massage, dimming lights, soft music, diaper change, etc. Create a non-stimulating sleep environment, which means removing all toys from the crib, turning off the lights to create a dark room, and using an appliance that creates white noise. Put your child to sleep while he or she is still awake, and stick to a regular sleep schedule.
6) Recognize signs of postpartum. Symptoms include panic attacks, thoughts of hurting your baby, intense anxiety, insomnia or always being tired, feeling isolated, and suicidal thoughts. Reach out to your doctor, family or a friend if you experience one or more of these signs.
7) Avoid isolating yourself. Reach out to friends, family, and other new Moms. Try finding support groups for new Moms, or turn to Web sites to connect with other mothers.
8) Put some structure back into your life. Schedule your days with different tasks or activities. After three to four months, you should have a general idea of his/her sleep pattern and begin designing balance.
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I really enjoyed the show today. I feel it could help a lot of women. I would have loved seeing Brook Sheilds on the show.
I absolutely loved the show today it was very helpful to me and i could relate to the feeling that the featured moms were having.
I have a 12 week old son and he is a very good baby. I have no feelings of hurting him at all, however, I feel very disconnected and angry with my husband. We constantly are arguing. I never expected that having a child would bring such animosity towards my husband and I am wondering if this normal or not? I just can’t figure out why I feel this way.
i think that the show was wounderful(like always tyra) and i can feel all the mothers feelings and pain. i understand 100%.
I have a two month old baby and the show really helped me alot.
I have a 2 week old and it was good to hear other mothers issues and getting tips.
I am 20yrs old. motherhood has saved me. i enjoy being a young mom. my problem was dad.
I loved the topic on the Tyra show today! I am currently 6 mos pregnant w/ my first and do not live close to family, so it was really helpful to hear some tips on how to avoid or deal w/ PPD. I could relate w/ most of the guests in regards to how they view themselves both before and after their pregnancy! Thanks for all the great info and the link to this website! it’s gonna be a huge help!
Loved the show today(babies were both asleep and I could actually tune in;) !)
Becoming a new parent can be very exhausting… But worth every second of it! Loved the fitting room idea! Never thought of that one and will put it to good use!!
Loved todays show i am a mother of four and new tips are always coming out and helping.I was had a hard time after my second child cause she has a heart condition.I had alot help and it helps just having someone to talk to.
Loved todays show i am a mother of four and new tips are always coming out and helping.I was had a hard time after my second child cause she has a heart condition.I had alot help and it helps just having someone to talk to.
I want to thank Tyra for this show and for all the moms on it. I esp. related to Kelly and could tell she wasn’t buying the “flip” answers from the therapists. We are SO tired of hearing the same old tips over and over again. We know!!! It doesn’t change anything. We want to be able to vent and not be told quick little “how to feel better” answers. I wish there were more people as honest as she was. I understood totally Kelly and hope you will be on a forum where you can chat with others.
I think I’ve just realized that I myself had postpartum. My daughter is 9 months now but since I was only 20 when she was born, I felt alot of the things the women on the show felt. I still feel like I need to find the “me” I used to be. I never have any personal time and my husband’s always working. I CAN say that I have no ill will towards Ally (my daughter) or myself anymore, so I’m assuming that I’ve moved passed it. I love her and being her mom is wonderful. The only thing think about is how I’d like to get my husband to let people watch her every once in a while so we can go back to being 21, even for just one night.
I love what I saw of the show. The first half I was at the pedi office getting my sons shots! :*(
By the way I’m gonna try to start putting my son down when he’s awake and see how that works out. Wish me luck!!
THE SHOW TODAY WAS VERY GOOD, I AM A 31 YEAR OLD NEW MOM. MY BABY IS ONLY 4 WEEKS AND I WENT THROUGH THE BABY BLUES. I DID EVEN THINK THOUGHTS LIKE THIS BEFORE I HAD HER I DIDN’T KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT. MY DAUGHTER IS BEAUTIFUL AND I STILL HAVE TIMES WHEN I GET ANXIOUS AND SAD. BUT NO WHERE NEAR AS MUCH. IT IS WONDERFUL THAT PEOPLE ARE TALKING ABOUT THIS BECAUSE SOME WOMEN REALLY DON’T KNOW THE UNDERSIDE OF MOTHERHOOD.
I always make sure my angel is sleeping before i put her to bed ( not good)! she is 3 months old, is it ok to let her cry herself to sleep?
is there a discount code for the sleep easy solution DVD?
It was a coincidence that the show moms with postpartum came on because this whole week I’ve been crying all the time and to see moms that had issues as well really helped me out in trying to deal with all the emotions I’m going through. I got a alot from the show!
The Tyra show was really good because i can totally relate to it. I’m so glad that Tyra did this show to show other moms that they are not alone in their feeling. I see how much I get lonely and trapped as a new mother. But I’ve also learned that a lot of the reasons why I am very sad or discontent with my daughter…I’m being selfish. I’m not use to putting someone else before me, and it’s been difficult because my little one needs me so much. When I realized how much I must put my daughter first and make sacrifices for her, it became easier. Now I’m enjoying my time with her and loving the moment of how much I’m putting her first and not being so selfish.
love the show today,butwhen tyra said you can win a chance to win things theresno way you canlet her know that.rhonda