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A Momologue by Jackie: How can a Mom politely suggest "Talk to me before you shop for my kid"?

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Before I was a Mom, it never occurred to me to check with parents before showering my nieces, nephews or friends' kids with toys for Christmas. I would find the coolest, trendiest toy and march over to their house with a cocky arrogance knowing that I probably trumped even Santa with my choice in gifts.

Now that I have children, it frustrates me that people could be so thoughtless and careless. Don't they realize that "Santa" carefully considers each toy, making sure that everthing is equal among our multiple kids—from how many toys they see when they walk down the stairs Chrismas morning, to the money we spend on each child? What am I supposed to do when you arrive on Christmas Eve with the very toy Santa worked hard on with his tiny little elves for weeks on end? Besides, I didn't have kids and raise them so you could be the hero. You have officially ruined Christmas!

OK, so maybe it's not all that dramatic, but it would be helpful if you checked in with me before buying my kids toys. Not only would we not make the mistake of getting the same thing, but I could tell you to go to hell when you even think about getting that fire hat with the "real" alarm sound and the 24-pack of batteries you were so considerate to supply with it.

Happy Holidays!


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7 comments so far | Post a comment now
dortkelpchef December 17, 2007, 5:40 PM

This article opened my eyes to something. Besides worrying about duplicating gifts to children, one must also take into careful consideration whether you are trumping the parents by giving a child the latest greatest. Fortunately——I am a thoughtful doting Aunt and I Always check with my brother and sister-in-law before just obtaining whatever I think my nieces may want or need. I used to love to just surprise them but I am finding more and more, I can surprise them with stocking stuffers just as easily. So I let my brother tell me what they have been pining for and act accordingly. At first, I really found this off-putting to ASK for items. But it has worked out well to give the recipients what they really want and enjoy. I find the best gifts are the gifts of memories and nostalgia from Christmas’s gone past. My brother and I appreciate this thought and we have tried to pass it along to his children. That’s why I love the idea of sending my nieces the timeless wonderful gift of the old classics. The tales like Rudolph the Red-nosed Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, and Santa Clause is Comin’ to Town are what I remember growing up with and watching with my family. These classics are easy to obtain at the website http://www.christmasclassics.tv The Limited Keepsake Edition of the Original Christmas Classics also include a bonus music CD. You can purchase this wonderful box set of DVD’s and CD wherever DVD’s are sold or you can use the convenience of online shopping. This great gift is sure to delight everyone at your Holiday gathering and be sure to buy extras as emergency gifts to households with kids that you may have forgotten on your list. I work for them and I personally can’t wait to buy my own copy and wax nostalgia with my honey and a hot of cup cocoa. Enjoy your Seasonal festivities with the gift of warm fond Christmas memories with your family today.

Crisa December 18, 2007, 12:14 AM

Wow that was an intelligent poster. The article was dramamtic, yes, but no need for ugly. If you recieve gift you don’t want, donate them to someone who does. Don’t let the kids open other gifts until after Christmas and teach them how to be polite gift recievers. If they already have it they should just say thank you!

Brigid December 31, 2007, 12:20 PM

This year my daughter and I went through all of the ads and cut out what she wanted first. We then both sat down and one-by-one talked about the items that she wanted to put on her list(we use pictures since she’s 4), and decide together if she REALLY wanted it or if she just wanted it because everyone else wanted it or it was on tv, etc… This really helped her realize the items that she would really play with more then a day or two. I then added to the list items we didn’t have pictures of like gift certificates(Children’s Museum, Children’s Theater, etc). After we were finished we passed it around to the family and she explained to them what she wanted the most. She was really excited at Christmas when she opened something and remembered that she had put it on her list! The biggest hit this year was a telescope, she LOVES the stars and the moon! Our family really enjoyed her explaining to them what she wanted instead of us telling them, but I have done that also when she was little. I believe that: 1. It’s my child 2. It’s my house(I have to deal with the item) and 3. If I wouldn’t buy an item(because I don’t like it or it’s not age appropriate, etc), I’m going to make sure that no one else buys it for her!

Brigid December 31, 2007, 12:21 PM

This year my daughter and I went through all of the ads and cut out what she wanted first. We then both sat down and one-by-one talked about the items that she wanted to put on her list(we use pictures since she’s 4), and decide together if she REALLY wanted it or if she just wanted it because everyone else wanted it or it was on tv, etc… This really helped her realize the items that she would really play with more then a day or two. I then added to the list items we didn’t have pictures of like gift certificates(Children’s Museum, Children’s Theater, etc). After we were finished we passed it around to the family and she explained to them what she wanted the most. She was really excited at Christmas when she opened something and remembered that she had put it on her list! The biggest hit this year was a telescope, she LOVES the stars and the moon! Our family really enjoyed her explaining to them what she wanted instead of us telling them, but I have done that also when she was little. I believe that: 1. It’s my child 2. It’s my house(I have to deal with the item) and 3. If I wouldn’t buy an item(because I don’t like it or it’s not age appropriate, etc), I’m going to make sure that no one else buys it for her!

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