A Momologue by Jackie: How can a Mom politely suggest "Talk to me before you shop for my kid"?
Before I was a Mom, it never occurred to me to check with parents before showering my nieces, nephews or friends' kids with toys for Christmas. I would find the coolest, trendiest toy and march over to their house with a cocky arrogance knowing that I probably trumped even Santa with my choice in gifts.
Now that I have children, it frustrates me that people could be so thoughtless and careless. Don't they realize that "Santa" carefully considers each toy, making sure that everthing is equal among our multiple kids—from how many toys they see when they walk down the stairs Chrismas morning, to the money we spend on each child? What am I supposed to do when you arrive on Christmas Eve with the very toy Santa worked hard on with his tiny little elves for weeks on end? Besides, I didn't have kids and raise them so you could be the hero. You have officially ruined Christmas!
OK, so maybe it's not all that dramatic, but it would be helpful if you checked in with me before buying my kids toys. Not only would we not make the mistake of getting the same thing, but I could tell you to go to hell when you even think about getting that fire hat with the "real" alarm sound and the 24-pack of batteries you were so considerate to supply with it.