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I Fake It and So Should You

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A Momologue by an office Mom who will remain anonymous in order to save her marriage: Honesty is highly overrated.


I have a friend who's going through a divorce. I have been there for her tears and anger, fears and frustrations. Through it all, I find myself looking at my own marriage. Could we head down the same path one day? What are the differences between them and us?

Then it hit me: I fake it, and she did not.

Now get your mind out of the gutter--I'm not talking about faking "it." Although, if I were perfectly honest, that's happened once or twice throughout our relationship. I'm talking about the times where my husband comes home from work wanting to talk about a client or the issue/excitement of the day and goes on and on about something I have no interest in. And for some reason, those days happen when I've had kids throw up on me or a work crisis of my own or I just don't want to hear another person speak for at least an hour. But I don't say "Honey, please stop talking, or I will smack you in the head with a frying pan." I say "Wow, Honey," and try to listen because I know it makes a huge difference.

And don't get me started with the household stuff. Just like millions of other men, he forgets things that need to be done or doesn't do them completely. Do I complain? Sometimes, yeah. But other times, I thank my lucky stars he is the man he is and I keep my mouth shut. Because sometimes, keeping my mouth shut is the best thing I can do for my marriage.

So I have one thing to say to those who think "honesty is the best policy" - I'm happily married. Are you?

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