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Zoey 101 and Your Grade Schooler

Thursday, December 20, 2007

Tips for talking to a younger child about Jamie Lynn's pregnancy.

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We've been getting a lot of comments from Moms concerned about the Jamie Lynn situation and how to explain it to their kids. Yesterday, we gave you pointers on how to discuss this with your teen and tween. But this morning, a mom named Amy sent us the following message:

My problem is not what Jamie Lynn did, as much as how to talk to my 8-year-old about this. Because she is in a show where she plays a school kid, we as parents are forced to discuss a subject that maybe we weren’t ready to do just yet. I understand that eventually you have to, but at what age? I feel my son is too young to even start to understand about sex. They don’t even start going over it in school until [the kids are] 11 and 12 years old. I don’t want to lie or dodge the subject, but I don’t know if his mind is ready for the explanation. Has anyone got any specific ideas on how to explain briefly, not going into too much detail, but not lying either?

Great question, Amy. We realize many fans of Zoey 101 are age 6 to 9, so what's the best way to talk about this with them and make sure you're sending the right messages? We called our friend Jessica Sheets, spokesperson for the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, for her advice. "Rather than just sitting them down at 12 years old and having 'the talk,' this needs to be an ongoing discussion," Jessica says. If your child is fan of Zoey 101, she adds, this a great (however unwelcome) teachable moment Moms should seize.

THE SCRIPT:
Did you hear about what happened to Jamie Lynn?

If a child answers "yes":
How do you feel about it?
What do your friends think about it?
Do your friends have any special relationships?
What do you think about that?

If the child answers "no":
It looks like she had a relationship with a boy and she ended up getting pregnant. What do you think about that?
Do you have questions about this?
"Try as much as you can to get the child’s perspective," recommends Jessica. "Then, after you hear your child out, you can say, 'I want to know how you feel about it—and here are my feelings on it.' This is a prime opportunity to share your own personal values with your child."

The ultimate goal is to make your child always feel comfortable coming to you. "Your kid will have a million questions over the years," says Jessica. "They can get a lot of information on the Internet, but that’s no substitute for advice and experience from a loving parent."

What if you're worried your child is not ready for this conversation, even at 9 or 10 years old? "Many parents make the mistake of thinking, 'That’s my little baby, he or she is not ready to hear something like that,'" she says. "Even Lynne Spears told OK!: 'Jamie Lynn's never late for her curfew. I was in shock. I mean, this is my 16-year-old baby.' But the fact is, a 16-year-old is not a baby. Neither is a 10-year-old. Remember, they're hearing a lot more than you did about sex when you were their age."

For more pointers from The National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy, click here.



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Thank you for this.
- Kim
Posted 12/20/07 04:05 PM
 
or you could let your child learn at their own pace. There is a wonderful book called “The Wonderful Way Babies are Made.” I don’t remember the name of the Author, but it is written with big letters and easy words for little kids, and concurrently written with smaller letters, and consequently more detail, for the children as they get older. My mother used it with me and my four siblings, and gave it to me when my 5 year old started asking about babies…
- amanda
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