Mom•Logic from a Mom too tired to remember her name: I am an excellent Mom, until I'm not.
"I am a good Mom. I zip down the slide at the playground, belly laughing with my kids. I find creative ways to sneak veggies into the muffins and pancakes we bake together. I giggle and chat happily with them and even listen to kids' music in the car instead of turning on what I'd rather hear. I live for their hugs and kisses, questions and thoughts.
But not always.
Some days I go through the motions--making the same meals, wiping up the same damn macaroni and cheese bits from the floor under their chairs. I am short with them, say "wait a second" all too often, and stare at the ticking clock 10 times a minute until they've finally drifted off to sleep at night.
Add sleep deprivation, and I am a monster. When the kids have needs at 2:00 a.m., I have no tolerance. I b*tch at my husband, mumble negative things under my breath and have no patience for what I can't fix. In fact, I wonder sometimes why I chose this life at all. And before you get all high and mighty--I, too, was repulsed when I used to hear people on Dr. Phil admit they wished they never had kids. I mean, who thinks like that, right? (Well, I do. But only sometimes.)
I know I'm not alone. A recent article entitled The Bad Mommy Brigade in New York Magazine is definitive proof that other Moms, too, beat themselves up for not being "good." In fact, I bet that you--yes, you--are sometimes a super crappy mother. And if you're not...could you please leave some comments about how you achieve that? Because the rest of us are at a loss."
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Oh, amen, sister. I love being a mom MOST of the time, and usually feel like I do a good job at it - but there are times when I just don’t have it in me! Anyone with an honest bone in their body has to admit they’ve felt this way before. It’s called being human!
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WOW!!!!! Can I just say I coppied and e-mailed this to my husband! I am so glad to hear I am not the only one. I mean I love my kids to death, But I too get very frustrated with them. I agree with RK it is just being human.
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