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A Mom's Life After Death

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How to figure out the right time to go back to work after losing a loved one.

It's being reported that production of Michelle Williams's movie, Blue Valentine, has been put on hold while the actress grieves Heath Ledger. Family counselor and friend of Mom•Logic Rosanne Tobey, L.P.C., offers some tips on how Moms can navigate the process of taking time off work after a death. michellewalk2.jpg

Rest 2-3 days after the services. You're physically and emotionally exhausted, and both your body and mind need rest. Then have a candid conversation with your boss; find out your company's bereavement policy and talk about how you could best transition.

Work shorter hours. Ease in with a truncated schedule.

Don't expect to be 100%. Your boss and co-workers know you've been through something major.

Follow your instincts. You never know how long the grieving process will take until you're going through it. Most people are surprised by how grief affects them. If you go back and it feels too soon, take more time off.

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Marilyn Stolzman,Ph.D. February 11, 2008, 4:36 PM

I agree with the comments. Grieving is emotionally exhuasting and appropriate self-nurturing so essential. Paying attention to adequate diet, rest and exercise at a time that the mind and body are so stressed.

I have published two books last year that might help your audience entitled, THE HEALING POWER OF GRIEF:The Journey through loss to life and laughter and THE HEALING POWER OF LOVE: Transcending the loss of a spuse to new love, both books were pubished by Sourcebooks and available at as well as Barnes and Nobles. The first book describes what people do through in each stages of grief, provides Do’s and Don’ts for the bereaved and their friends, resources, and a workbook for journaling.I am been a bereavement therapist for over 25 years and am Executive Director of the H.O.P.E. Unit foundaiton for Bereavement, Loss and Transition.

Marilyn Stolzman,Ph.D. February 11, 2008, 4:42 PM

Please correct, I hav been a bereavement therapist for over 25 years and am Executive Director of the H.O.P.E. Unit foundation for Bereavement, LOss and Transtion.

Ten Tees January 8, 2011, 9:15 PM

Nice information! Nice reading. I’ve just got one observation to give about tee shirts.

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