One friend ditched me after I had kids. We had been close for years. We shared family gatherings, worked together on various projects, and had countless long, heart-to-heart talks about everything. At first, she seemed happy to be part of my wedding, throw a baby shower, and even professed excitement that my first child would be born near her birthday. Soon, she faded away, and by the time I gave birth to my second child, she was gone.
Since becoming a parent, I have met many amazing Mommy friends. There is something profound about how quickly bonds form when you raise your kids together. Other single friends have commented that I always find time to talk or even to steal away from my family for a late night drink or dinner. We plan fun activities with friends that don't include kids. I know that some friends can live without long rants about being married and complaints about parenting. They love my daughters, but don't always need to hear 'funny' anecdotes about them.
Sometimes I wonder why this one friend was able to walk away. What made her feel so uncomfortable that she no longer wanted to have any contact? Recently, we bumped into each other. She quickly ran off, blaming a parking meter that was about to expire. Mutual friends often ask about her. I hear she's busy with work. Sometimes friendships evolve and change, but I'll always remember that she was a big part of my life before I became a Mom ... Has this happened to anyone else?