A pediatrician suggests you communicate with your toddler caveman-style.
The New York Times featured unconventional advice from Dr. Harvey Karp, the author of The Happiest Toddler on the Block. Dr. Karp says that in terms of brain development, a toddler is primitive and uncivilized--an emotion-driven, instinctive creature. Logic and persuasion, common tools of modern parenting, "are meaningless to a Neanderthal," Dr. Karp says.
|Here's how he suggests you communicate with your "Caveman in the Crib":
â€˘ Bring yourself, both mentally and physically, down to a child's level when he or she is upset.
â€˘ Communicate in a child's own language of "toddler-ese," using short phrases with lots of repetition, and reflecting the child's emotions in your tone and facial expressions.
â€˘ Repeat the very words the child is using, over and over again--for instance, if the child says,
We'd feel like total idiots doing this, but Dr. Karp swears it works. And when your kid's in the middle of a screaming tantrum, you'll try just about anything to make it stop, right? Maybe even "You want cookie. Cookie now."