Joy Divorced Luck Club navigates her first date (with a younger man) since her separation.

"I have been approached by men younger than 30 in the past few months. I have had no desire to date. I have not been advertising my single status. I do not walk around with a "M.I.L.F." t-shirt on. I am tired all the time. And I'm definitely looking my age with help from this exhausting divorce--regardless of what my mother keeps saying, 'you young and purty...Elizabeth Taylor marry lotta men in her life...last husband was younger guy too - you keep trying'-- I'm not interested in younger men, and I don't hang around venues that cater to this male demographic. I'm running around the park and the grocery store!

I did accompany a friend to a small art show downtown on a recent Saturday night--while the children were with their father--where my typical plans would have included Ben & Jerry's and American Idol on Tivo.

I met M. by accident--literally bumped into him walking out of the restroom and making sure my skirt wasn't tucked into the back of my pantyhose. He immediately asked if I was one of the exhibitors. 'No,' I replied, 'I'm a guest.' He asked if I was here with anyone and I pointed to my friend--he's an actor/personal trainer, and NO, I have not gone there. You could tell M. was intimidated by my friend's looks.

He seemed mature. Until I learned that he was a 31-year-old investment banker who owned the loft next door. Five years younger. Not too bad. And he was actually very good looking. I gave him my number.

I almost backed out of this 'first date' at the last minute. I fielded a call that afternoon from a client/friend right before my call to M. to cancel and blurted out my dilemma to her. 'You need to break the seal,' she insisted. 'Just go.'

He picked a Korean barbeque restaurant. Over dinner, he told me he was into Asian women. Business takes him to the Far East often. 'You're totally my type. I think it's almost an obsession how much I like Asian girls,' he shared. I thought it would be good to change the subject and talk about his other interests. 'I really like to go to the gym.' he offered. Oh god. Check please.

I recounted this experience to another mom friend of mine. 'You shouldn't write him off so quickly. It would be fun to have just kept this boy around as a sex buddy, but I think that would make you a puma.' she laughed.

What the hell is that?

Apparently, it's the definition of a woman under 40 who goes out with younger men. Over 40 and you're a cougar. And I'm still not sure if that's the accurate concensus on the correct meaning.

Give me a break.

For reasons that have nothing to do with my feline status, I am not interested in getting involved with anyone right now, especially a younger man. I already have two small children and I'm in the process of trying to get rid of a big child that throws expensive temper tantrums at me through his lawyers. But these are my personal choices.

I am actually offended that women are even labeled this way. How about pointing to a woman walking around with a younger man and saying, 'Good for her. And good for them.' Who cares why they are together? There's a very good chance that they might have found the fulfilling companionship that has eluded many of us.

At the very least, she may be getting a hell of a lot more booty than I am. Meow."