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For My Daughter On Her First Birthday

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Diary of an Adopting Mom: Why my baby girl's big day is bittersweet.


Baby's first birthday--an occasion filled with emotion, promise and joy. It's a time where Moms look back and see how far they've come--you've made it through an entire year of sleepless nights, changing diapers, teething, countless doctor visits and so many milestones. The first smile and roll over is replaced with first steps and first words. And that very first birthday cake-- it almost always ends in confectionery destruction and photos that will be pulled out through the years, along with fond memories.

But not for our family.

While the cake will be made and the gifts bought, my daughter, Lucy, will spend her first birthday, today, in a Taiwanese orphanage a world away. She'll have no idea that she has a Mommy and Daddy and two big brothers who wake up each day hoping this is the day the adoption will be finalized--that it's us who will be singing her birthday song and making our own wish for her.

We were matched with our sweet girl in September, when she was 7 1/2 months old. Since then, the only thing we've had to hold onto are pictures, videos, and developmental updates--which are just reminders of all we're missing. What's even more devastating for us is knowing that the babies she's known all her life have, one by one, been united with their parents. Does she realize that her friends won't be coming back? Every day, she's experiencing such loss and we can't even protect her.

There will be a day in the not-so-distant future where we will hold our little girl and the agony of waiting will be a faint memory. Until then, I just hope she knows how much her Mommy and Daddy love her and want her home.

Happy Birthday, baby girl.

To watch a special video from this Mom to her daughter, click here... and to read more, visit Taiwan Lucy.

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6 comments so far | Post a comment now
J February 1, 2008, 12:10 PM

Happy Birthday Lucy, hope you come home soon!

Aerdna February 1, 2008, 12:20 PM

You are an amazing person. So inspiring. Hope your little girl comes home to you soon!

Anonymous February 1, 2008, 4:34 PM

Happy Birthday, Lucy. Hope you are home very very soon with your loving family.

Julie W February 1, 2008, 11:24 PM

Happy Birthday Lucy!

Gillean February 2, 2008, 5:55 PM

She is gorgeous. Happy birthday Lucy! I hope it isn’t too much longer until you are united with your beautiful baby girl.

emma edmonds June 17, 2008, 4:38 PM

i am sending this with all the best wishes i can for your family and your little princess you will be happy together soon enough and all this will be forgotten when you hug her as only a mothers love could

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