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Kids at Funerals? One Mom Weighs in...

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One Mom shares memories from her youth.


When we wrote Family Says Goodbye to Heath Ledger, we asked whether or not you thought children were too young to go to funerals. Anon wrote in: "I was forced to attend a funeral when I was a child and boy did it mess me up. I don't know if I'll ever be able to attend a funeral again. I wasn't prepared for the outpouring of grief from the adults in my life or for seeing my uncle's body. I think my parent thought that I was at an age where I was ready, but they never did anything to prepare me for it. The only thing I can compare it to is tossing someone who can't swim in the deep end of the pool. Parents, please make sure you talk to your children about death and how different people mourn. If you are taking them to a funeral tell them what to expect, every detail. Had I known that they were going to open the coffin I might not have freaked out the way I did. Also, if it's their first time dealing with death, maybe a funeral isn't the way to start. A wake or a visit to the grave might be the first step. And please, if your child has the guts to tell you that they don't want to go, LISTEN TO THEM. Age doesn't necessarily match their emotional readiness."

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