Find a Man ... Then a Job?

 

Even if you put career on hold to make the family life happen, it’s not guaranteed to happen.

- Anonymous

Posted 03/07/08 09:58 AM

 

 

There are no guarantees in life, and sometimes you have to make tough decisions. This isn’t sexist, it’s just biology. If you put off having kids, you’re taking a gamble that when you’re older with fewer eggs everything will go perfectly. Some women are able to balance careers and children simultaneously while others have to or want to choose which is going to be their focus. Again, not sexist, just facts.

- Amy

Posted 03/07/08 10:33 AM

 

 

Also, I have several friends in their thirties who are really regretting that they waited. Others I know are glad they made that choice. Mostly, the ones who waited and are now having trouble conceiving just wish that someone had warned them (or that they had paid attention to the warnings). Apparently, alot of women think that they have just as good a chance in their 30’s as in their 20’s.

- Amy

Posted 03/07/08 10:38 AM

 

 

I think this article is a good answer to all propoganda out there that acts like you can just have kids whenever you want and the biological clock never stops ticking. Bravo for someone being brave enough to say it.

- Claire

Posted 03/07/08 10:53 AM

 

 

I don’t think one can plan their life that exactly. It says to put off your career to find the right guy first??? How do most women “find the right guy” anyways? Amongst most people I know, it is either in college or grad school or social events related to either or in the workplace or at after work social events or career-related professional events or through the network of people you amass going to school or working. I don’t see putting off anything that surrounds you with intelligent, successful men a deterrent to finding the right guy. Thereafter…you don’t have to choose between children and your career. You just have to take it one step at a time and know that when something comes along you’ll find a way to make it work. I had to slow down my career a little when our surprise pregnancy happened last year, but I love my son, and I know that my having a career will ultimately be a positive thing for my children. I do sometimes get discouraged when the guys around me, especially the single/childless ones (and there are a lot, I’m an engineer) can keep going without having to put the breaks on, but I have to remind myself that I did a great thing too that they will never experience and in the grand scheme of things, this is a really short part of my life. Just surround yourself with people that support you and remember that you have that career to give yourself options and the life you want to live. If children are a part of that picture, don’t let your career take that away. The biological clock doesn’t tick for your career…if anything, in my field, sadly, the older you are the more respected your professional opinion and the faster you move up! Of course, if I were a runway model, this opinion might be completely different! :-)

- Freda

Posted 03/07/08 10:58 AM

 

 

Well, that’s all nice and dandy to say to put your career on hold, but with Corporate America these days, who can afford to stop working? I think the only advice I could give is to get out more…especially if you don’t have kids yet! You are more likely to meet someone going out to social events than hanging around work.

- Mandy

Posted 03/08/08 06:17 PM