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What Drives a Mom to Kill Her Kids?

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Following the news of a Kentucky mother who allegedly murdered her kids, Friend of Mom•Logic Counseling Mom discusses moms on the brink.


After Louisville resident Gail Lynn Coontz was charged with killing her 14-year-old son and 10-year-old daughter, Mom•Logic asked Counseling Mom, Rosanne Tobey, for her perspective.

Rosanne says Moms who commit this type of extreme crime most often suffer from mental illness.

But she points out that many other Moms face daily frustrations that if not handled carefully, could result in unintended child abuse. Here are her tips for staying cool when kids push moms too far.

1. Give yourself a time out. Be aware of your emotional state and know when it's time to take a break. Ideally, before you have lost your temper, put your child in a safe place and walk away. Go to your room, go outside, wherever you can and cool down.

2. Do not handle your child in anger. Once you have lost your temper, do not hit them, do not pick them up, do not change their diaper. Again, find yourself a place to get away very quickly and collect your thoughts.

3. Try to maintain perspective. Remember that what is going on in the moment seems really important, but in reality, it is not. It just feels that way because you are caught up in the emotion of it.

4. If you are still about to explode, get help. Call someone! Do not let the situation continue to play out. It's best if you can make arrangements for who to call before a situation like this arises. Then, post a note with that person's number on it near the phone to remind yourself to reach out when you
need help.

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4 comments so far | Post a comment now
Marguerite March 31, 2008, 4:36 PM

Perhaps this tragic case involves an antidepessant, especially an SSRI antidepressant like Prozac, Zooft or Paxil.

Go to: to view over 2,200 other tragic cases involving these SSRIs. The full media article is available.

lss April 1, 2008, 3:03 PM

all you give is tips to controll your self. she killed her children and all you want to do is dismiss it. she has and had no right to see if the little ones should live or die. and people saying that it might be antidepessants that mad her do it is giving her another way to feel like its not her fault.want she did was and is wrong. don’t dismisss it.!

cynthiakelley August 8, 2008, 7:47 AM

you cant always blame it on a antidepressant

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