With this ring, I thee shed.
We never thought we'd hear about a new trend from Dear Abby (same name, but now her daughter's advice), but it's happened. In her column this weekend, she featured a letter from a single mother who bought a "divorce ring" after her split with her cheating ex. Apparently, this is a new trend among the divorcee set.
The design is simple: a thick band with a break in the center to denote your split. The ring features three bands of white gold on one side--one band for the year you met your ex, one band for the year you married, and one band for the year of the divorce. Some even get the date their divorce was final engraved on the inside, and many women wear the ring on their middle finger...for obvious reasons.
Would you wear a "divorce ring" or is this just a silly attempt at getting more bling?
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OMG…I love how they wear it on their middle fingers…that’s too funny :)
- Rossalind
why not just get a tattoo that says “I’m bitter”?
- don't be angry
I am not sure why you would wear this. Do you really have to show off that you are divorced. I wouldn’t wear one and I am divorced.
- stacy
Is being divorced something to be proud of? Does it make you more attractive or desirable? Why in the world would someone want to advertise this?
- Ginny
I think the divorce ring is a great idea. I would like to buy one. No, I am not bitter. I just think the divorce ring is a symbolic way of celebrating the fact that I am no longer tied down to an abusive husband
- Emmy
Does a divorce have to mean the guy was abusive. Cheating isn’t nice but it isn’t exactly abuse. The ring is just silly. Show your freedom with your actions. The ring seems to symbolize you can’t let go.
- Fontaine
I have to disagree that “cheating isn’t exactly abuse.” It is abuse on a level that almost defies description. Unless one has been on the receiving end of a marriage were one partner cheats on the other…you can never no how damaging it is. And for those who continue to live with a cheating spouse or partner…read the pysch textbooks to see what happens to those that do…emotional bankruptcy. If that isn’t abuse I don’t know what is. About the ring…not my thing. Although there was a time I would have gladly given my ex a permanent symbol of how I felt about his abandonment/betrayal. But in this country they send you to jail for murder.
- Marie N
I’m not divorced so not sure exactly how I’d feel, but I think I like the idea of a piece of jewelry at that point in life. I wouldn’t get this, though! I’d make it something symbolizing my committment to me, and/ or God, and/ or my family. A New Life Ring, instead of a Divorce Ring.
- EG
Am I the only one who finds this so completely tacky and tasteless?
- Elle
No, Fontaine I said nothing about a cheating husband. That would have been the least of my worries. What I said was an abusive husband. Let me break this down for you. The sorry sack of s**t beat me. So, believe me unless one carries a wish for a painful death or in the least a reconstructive facial surgery. One has absolutly no trouble letting go. Provided that one is fortunate enough to have people that can help keep him away. So, again I state, the divore ring is a symbolic way of celebrating the fact that I am no longer tied down to an abusive husband.
- Emmy
Sorry Emmy. I thought you were referring to the original post. I am glad you escaped. No one should be treated the way you were. I hope you have a great life with out the Jerk!! Celebrate any way you can. You deserve it!! Sorry again.
- Fontaine
Thank You Fontaine I apologize as well. I appreciate your good wishes and I will take your advice about celebrating. Thanks again and good wishes to you as well.
- Emmy
I think I might actually understand this one. I am 24 and I just got a divorce. I took my maiden name back (on the advice of several friends). I feel a little self conscious that people now think I had my 18 month old daughter out of wedlock. I think this might actually make me feel better about it. Hey, and who doesn’t like more jewelry! I had actually been thinking of buying a ring with her birthstone and mine and wearing it as a symbol of my commitment to being her mommy.
- Becky
I am currently divorcing my husband who has many OCD issues. He refuses to see his 3yr old son now. Everyone person has their own reasons to purchase, and I will be purchasing one myself when my divorce is final. If it makes the person feel stronger, and gives them a boost in confidence, I say go for it. Plus people like to wear those “rubber bracelets” on their wrist to display support for other causes. Well this is more like a cause, not a promotion, saying I am also a survivor, in my opinion.
- Patti
You’ve got to be kidding!
- Terri Winske
Another stupid fad.
- Nan
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