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Is Your Kid "Too Fat" to Play?

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Don't let a coach's stray remark ruin your little girl's dreams.


When we heard about a cheerleading coach telling a 6-year-old that she needed to "slim down if she wants to be a winner," we were ticked. With the pressure on for little ballerinas, figure skaters, gymnasts and cheerleaders to be teensy, we asked friend of Mom•Logic and Counseling Mom, Rosanne Tobey, for tips if your little girl has dreams of starring in a thin-worshiping sport.

  • Evaluate yourself: If you're constantly complaining about cellulite and kimono arms, your children hear you. Counseling Mom says, "If you're consumed with wanting someone else's body, it's hard to teach your daughter self-acceptance."
  • Emphasize different, not better: "We do the best we can with what we have been given," Counseling Mom says. Show your daughter that she and her friends have different strengths and weaknesses.
  • Do damage control: If your kid has run into an evil coach or instructor, you have to work even harder to instill positive body image. Provide appropriate examples of successful women who are not rail thin. Stress health and strength over aesthetics. Says Counseling Mom, "Looking pretty and being unhealthy is not a good thing."

Has an instructor ever humiliated your kid? Tell us below.

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4 comments so far | Post a comment now
Tricia April 10, 2008, 1:16 PM

I would never allow anyone to belittle my child for any reason.

J April 10, 2008, 1:19 PM

Parents want their child to be winners.
The coach makes a statement in the context of doing what it takes to win.

But then the reality of this being a child is present.

So is just a matter of a no tact coach or a Paris Hilton head filled world?

The “evaluate yourself” comment was spot on.

Amy Bowllan April 11, 2008, 2:16 PM

My daughter, who is 8, was told by her PEDIATRICIAN she needs to LOSE WEIGHT. I was stunned, disgusted and sorry my daughter had to hear this. Needless to say, I haven’t been back.

Get Rid Of Cellulite Thighs March 15, 2011, 12:55 AM

Cellulite is basically the same as normal fat but it can cause a lot more embarrassment because it is more visible and uglier. Our fat tissue contains connective tissue which protects our organs and muscles. If the connective tissue gets overwhelmed inside by fluids and toxins, problems are starting to appear. Women has circular shaping of their fat cells, which means this condition occurs mostly in them.

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