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Amber Boersma explains what it's like to be pregnant with another couple's twin boys.

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Mom Logic: How did you get involved with surrogacy?
Amber: After the birth of my son, I felt really frustrated, like something was missing. Life was moving so fast, and I questioned what was I doing with my time here on earth. As honorable as being a Mom is, I felt like I was meant to do greater things. I felt like I didn't want the years to go by and think, 'What could I have done that would have made an impact on someone else's life, other than just for my family?'

Surrogacypopped into my head and
I thought it was what I should
be doing. 

Mom Logic: How did your family react?
Amber: At first, my husband wasn't a huge fan. I explained how much it meant to me and how I needed to do this to be fulfilled. He's a very understanding guy. It didn't take long to convince him.

I wanted to tell the kids before applying, to get their reactions. I went through it with them, explaining that mommy produces an egg and daddy produces sperm. 'Something comes from each and it makes a baby. There is a mommy out there, whose tummy is broken and she can't hold their baby, so I am going to hold their baby for them and grow it in my belly.' I explained that the baby won't be their brother or sister.

Their eyes were so big and my daughter's face was glowing and lit up. When I was done explaining, my daughter said, "Well, Mommy, God made her belly that way and that's why he made you so special." I am not a big crier, but it brought me
to tears.

Mom Logic: How has the pregnancy been?
I am 6 months along and carrying fraternal twin boys. The doctor believes both babies will be healthy and happy and feels I will go 37 weeks, so I am due around May 20.

Mom Logic: What would you like to say to other Moms?
Amber: First, I want to say all my family and friends have been so supportive
of my decision to be a surrogate. Some may think it's negative or they think
it's for lucrative reasons, but I want people to know for me, it was never about
the money.

The reward for me is the feeling of doing this for another family. The financial aspect was the hardest thing for me because it wasn't my intention to make money. My intention is to help someone who isn't able to have a child. I never expected anything in return. I wish the intended mother could experience being pregnant for herself, but I am glad I can do this. Their joy is my reward.


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5 comments so far | Post a comment now
Sugar April 2, 2008, 2:30 PM

Wow…what a kind person to do this! :)

Kristi April 5, 2008, 10:53 PM

I think this is the best thing that anyone could ever do for someone. God did it for a reason. Congrats for you to have done this.

Debra June 3, 2008, 11:32 PM

Since this in no way whatsoever is about the money, I was wondering, which charity did you donate your fee to?

Sarah  June 24, 2008, 2:55 PM

You’re awesome to do this Amber! Thanks for sharing your story!

MICHELLE October 17, 2008, 7:45 PM

AS A TWO TIME SURROGATE I UNDERSTAND THE FEELING OF NEEDING TO DO SOMETHING MEANINGFUL WITH YOUR TIME. I DELIVERED A 10lb.BOY IN MAY 2007 & THEN A 7lb.BOY IN SEPT.2008 BOTH FOR GAY COUPLES.I REALLY ENJOYED THE PROCESS. I HAVE TWO EXTENDED FAMILIES WHICH WE ARE VERY CLOSE. MY TWO SONS ALSO ENJOY HAVING THESE SPECIAL BABIES IN THEIR LIVES. IT’S HARD TO SEND THE NEWBORN HOME WITH THEM BUT THE EMOTIONAL PAIN TURNS TO HAPPINESS!!!
HOPE YOU ARE DOING WELL.


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