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Mom's Male BFF Quits Friendship

Sunday, May 18, 2008
filed under: love & sex

Have you ever taken out your frustration with your husband on someone else?

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A guy pal recently told us he was forced to end his friendship with his female BFF, who just happened to be a married mom. He said every time she had an argument with her husband, she'd misdirect the anger toward him, and he'd had it!

His friend had been having problems with her husband for a loooong time, and he was totally caught in the middle-- trying to maintain a delicate friendship with both, while enduring not only the mom's complaints about the husband, but also her misdirected anger and fault-finding with her friend. On more than one occasion, he had to tell his gal pal, "Hey, I'm not your husband!"

He claims he was in a no-win situation; he was no longer able to maintain a good relationship with the husband because of what he'd been hearing from his BFF -- and just tired of being victimized by his angry and frustrated gal pal. So he told the mom he could no longer abide being caught between the arguing pair, and quit the friendship.

Was this guy right to drop out of the friendship?



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4 comments so far | Post a comment now >>

 
That’s why girlfriends are so invaluable. They can listen without making it about themselves. Sounds like this guy was in a bad situation. The mom should definitely confide in a female friend who “gets” her.
- Anonymous
Posted 05/18/08 11:52 AM
 
I don’t think that it had anything to do with ‘getting her’. Remove the relationship aspect of it. If one of your friends constantly bickered to you about another one of your close friends and essentially got angry at you just because you were friends with the person as well how would you feel? How long would that friendship last?
- Jon
Posted 05/19/08 01:07 PM
 
Girlfriends are “invaluable?” Oh, please. Women don’t automatically make better friends, sorry! And the quality of a friend shouldn’t depend on one’s gender. Anyone who’s too immature to direct their problems at the appropriate person sounds TOXIC friend and she wouldn’t make a good friend FOR ANYONE. Good going, guy! You did the right thing :)
- ANON
Posted 05/19/08 01:15 PM
 
KUDOS to that guy for being able to look out for himself. That mom needs to go to a therapist instead of venting it out in that way!!!
- Naomi
Posted 05/19/08 01:28 PM
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