Bye-Bye Slutty Prom Dress

 

re: #3 I work as a dean at a public high school. Probably 90% of the time when a girl’s home has to be called for dress code violation, the mom storms in wearing a belling showing, low cut shirt with way too short shorts/skirt confronting the office staff about “What’s wrong with what she’s wearing?”

- Anonymous

Posted 05/22/08 06:01 PM

 

 

I don’t know why some teens think they have to dress like a skank to be attractive or catch boys’ interest. There are two types of boys, the kind who only think about one thing and will grind anything that moves, and the kind that like a pretty girl who dresses sexy but not slutty but are more interested in her personality. Those slutty dresses will only attract the first kind of boy, and if you want a shallow, hormone-crazed boyfriend who will objectify and use you, go ahead and wear that dress. But if you want a boyfriend who treats you as a person, not a bucket of fried chicken (breasts, thighs, legs,) then try wearing something that sings “I’m special, so special, I got to have some of your attention” rather than “My milkshake brings all the boys to the yard.” :P

- teen girl

Posted 05/22/08 10:59 PM

 

 

Your story is misleading. One gets the impression that all of the photos will be of actual prom goers when in fact only a few are the real deal. Most of the photos look like you copied a Frederick’s of Hollywood catalog. On a 25 year old the dresses still look trashy, but on a 16 year old they just look silly. And the one with the hole for the pregnant belly was just disgusting. My only question is: Where are the parents?

- BB

Posted 05/23/08 06:33 AM

 

 

Most of these dresses look like something that is seen at the beach except for the material used

- kaleonhardt

Posted 05/23/08 07:15 AM

 

 

Personally I didn’t like the designs that you shown for being appropriate. The prom is supposed to be a memorable occasion. What happened to wearing a beautiful gown? There are still lots of them in the store. Strapless, off the shoulder, similar to bridesmaids dresses. First of all don’t you go to the prom to dance. The fashions shown her and in the slutty examples, don’t lend the opportunity to do that without worry regarding what is falling off or flying up.

- Marty

Posted 05/23/08 09:37 AM

 

 

I am going through issues with my 14 year old daughter…who wants to wear short mini skirts because all her friends do. We have been struggling with how to have the conversation that she would be sending the wrong message to cave in to peer pressure in this way…these tips are a great step in the right direction!

- jeank

Posted 05/23/08 11:13 AM

 

 

6. Have her father—or another man she trusts/respects—talk with her about how boys view girls who dress overtly sexy (slutty, bimbo, airhead, material, etc) He should emphasize the ‘sexiness’ of subtlety and leaving something to the imagination. Or you can teach your sons not to make assumptions that a girl is “sexually available” and “asking for it” just because you can see her belly or a thong? And treat women with respect, regardless? I’m 17, and if my dad, etc. ever explained what was ‘sexy’ I would die of mortification. Forget prom.

- Amanda

Posted 05/23/08 12:33 PM

 

 

6. Have her father—or another man she trusts/respects—talk with her about how boys view girls who dress overtly sexy (slutty, bimbo, airhead, material, etc) He should emphasize the ‘sexiness’ of subtlety and leaving something to the imagination. Or you can teach your sons not to make assumptions that a girl is “sexually available” and “asking for it” just because you can see her belly or a thong? And treat women with respect, regardless? I’m 17, and if my dad, etc. ever explained what was ‘sexy’ I would die of mortification. Forget prom.

- Amanda

Posted 05/23/08 12:35 PM

 

 

Some of those dresses were just plain horrible. However, several were very nice - if you are 25 and wearing them to a club. Many 17 yr old prom goers WANT to look like a 25 yr old club goer! I think you just need to stress that there will be a time and a place - in later years - when that type of dress could be appropriate. Just not at the prom!!

- L

Posted 05/23/08 01:36 PM

 

 

the non slutty dresses are SO cute. i go to a catholic school, so our dress codes are pretty strict, and those would all be okie dokie

- megan

Posted 07/02/08 04:03 PM

 

 

The real question shouldn’t be where to find a “non-slutty” prom dress, but why we let people call us sluts? Really, why do we let pieces of fabric decide what someone is like, and why do we allow others to judge us just based on cloths? Yes, people often judge others based on the “outside” rather than the “inside.” But that doesn’t make it right or mean we have to contribute to it. Prom is not a job interview or a team sport. It is a fun party where people try to relax and have a good time with friends. It’s annoying when people try to use fashion and fabric just to show off how sexy or how “pure” they are, especially since actions speak louder than words. In my experience, “sluts” (or girls who lacked the moral qualities they judged others on) were often the most conservatively dressed. A true gentleman or lady knows clothes do not define the person. No one should tart up OR dress down just to appease whisperers in an event they go to be themselves and have fun. Wear whatever you are comfortable with, whatever that might be. - Roxy (roxythekiller@yahoo.com)

- Roxy

Posted 01/25/09 08:26 AM

 

 

I TOTALLY agree with Roxy!

- Louise

Posted 05/04/09 06:58 PM