Fathers are now joining the quest to keep their daughters virgins.
Chastity pledges have changed from little girls' silent promises to lavish ceremonies costing upwards of $10,000, with fathers promising their adolescent and teenage girls to protect their virginity and girls making quiet vows to themselves and family to stay pure until marriage.
Recent studies have suggested that a solid relationship between daughter and Daddy can lower the risk of early sexual activity among girls and teenage pregnancy. However, studies have also shown that girls who make purity pledges were six times more likely to engage in oral sex than virgins who hadn't taken a pledge. They were also much less likely to use condoms during their first time doing the deed. (Hey, maybe this dress made entirely of condoms could help if she slips up!)
Is it a little strange to have fathers so involved in their daughter's sexuality?
Momlogic friend Rabbi Sherre weighs in:
"I think what's really going on is that the father is making a commitment to the virginity of their daughters. It hearkens back to something very outdated.
Maybe they want to show their child that they're there for them, but it's undervaluing the autonomy and independence of them growing up. Giving your sexuality to your father is so odd...think about how many fathers have abused that. The relationship should be with the mothers. You don't call your father to tell him you got your period. I'm all for kids not having sex before marriage, but I want to empower our girls to make good decisions, not allow another man to make the decision.
The question comes up: Is this effective? Is this about a girl going to a party with her dad, or does she understand the significance of her pledge? We make promises all of the time and they're broken. It seems to me to be counterintuitive--that you make the promise to break it."
What's your view?
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