Guest blogger Single Mom Seeking says she stresses over if--and when--to make the introductions.
As a single mom who has dated off and on since my baby's first birthday -- Mae is now a second grader -- I'm still trying to master this. I wish I had a clear-cut answer. But I don't.
Here's one no-brainer rule (which, ahem, I've broken): Don't introduce your kid on a first date. Or a second, or a third. Another one is: If you had a miserable date, tell your girlfriends all about it -- not your kid. (I haven't broken that one yet.) But what happens after you've been seeing a guy for a couple of months, and he seems like a winner?
I've read every dating guide for single parents. The most common advice is: "Keep your kids out of it." Easier said than done. When you have a wee little one who's more interested in mashed bananas than mommy's boyfriend, this is easy-peasy. But at age 8, Mae knows what "dating" means. She wants to know where I'm going on Friday, and with whom.
I'm honest. I tell her, hoping that when she's a teenager, she'll keep me posted on her dates, too. While I keep my sex life private -- like any married mom does -- I don't ignore her curiosity.
Recently, after she'd asked a slew of questions about my evening plans, I asked if Mae wanted to meet the new guy. Her answer? "No."
Do you introduce your dates to your kids? When?