Quick and easy ways to manage that other mother in your life.
For many Moms, Mother's Day means getting together with your mother-in-law. But even if your relationship is tense, this doesn't have to be hell. We asked Sally Shields, author of The Daughter-in-Law Rules: 101 Surefire Ways to Manage (and Make Friends with) Your Mother-in-Law, for ways to ease the pain.
• Shower her with compliments out of the gate. "Take the time to tell her how pretty, young, healthy, and thin she looks," Sally says. Even if you have to slightly (or not-so-slightly) stretch the truth, remember: Flattery will get you everywhere.
• Praise her parenting skills. "During your conversation, slip in what a great job she did raising her son," she suggests. She'll be so floored, she'll be putty in your hands.
• Focus on the positives. Even if you loathe this woman, there must be something about her that's tolerable. Like how she plays with your kids. Or makes a mean fruit salad. Something. Anything. Make a list of five nice things about her, and read it when you feel like you want to throttle her. Inhale. Exhale. Repeat.
• Drink wine. Lots and lots of wine. (OK, we made that one up.)
What are your secrets for dealing with your MIL?