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Who's Sleeping with Your Husband? Part 3

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You never think it will happen to you, but then it does. Your husband has an affair. Why are our husbands risking marriage and family for sex with other women?

Former president Bill Clinton's back in the news because of an alleged post-presidency "sexual indiscretion" with actress Gina Gershon. While he's a high profile guy who may or may not be messing around, it's the same tune millions of men are singing. They leave home to hook up with someone who's not their wife. We went straight to the "other women" to find out how to catch these slick, unfaithful hubbies and what--if anything--can be done to keep it from happening in the first place. Who knew the mistress could actually save your marriage?

In Part 1 of our momlogic investigation, we spoke to five women who all admit to sleeping with married men. Some do it for the money and some do it for the thrills...but all of them admit that they never even consider their lovers' wives and children sitting at home.

In Part 2 the "other women" revealed EXACTLY what makes men willing to risk it all for a romp in the hay. Every mistress we spoke to agreed there's at least ONE thing wives can do to help fight infidelity in their marriages.

Tomorrow: Men who pay for sex and...

Friday: We ask a prostitute the 10 questions moms most want answered.

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Click here to see the Hollywood's Rumored 'Other Women' Gallery.

About the Experts...
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Shannon Fox is a licensed family therapist in Los Angeles and a mother of three.
  rabbi sherre hirsch
Rabbi Sherre Hirsch is a mother of three and the author of We Plan, God Laughs, and offers non-denominational spiritual advice.


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25 comments so far | Post a comment now
kay September 5, 2008, 2:02 PM

As a single over 40 women with an add on a single site that says NO married men please, I am amazed at how many married men still write, all with an excuse why thier situation is differnt or at least they are honest enough to tell me they are marrie.. please!
If I, one single older woman am getting all these hits, just think how many men are trying to hook up with all the other single females online. Oh and just two days ago a guy hit on me ina court, we were there for parking violations. He was cute so we chatted until I realized that he was wearing a wedding band! Oh was that a problem he asked? Married men are the worst.

FranklySpeaking November 19, 2008, 7:06 PM

Frankly speaking, the so-called mistresses and cheaters here are full of that stuff and headed to hell!! You have no true idea about what you are doing when you break up families and cause heartache to others. You will get your just rewards in the Eternal Judgement, I’m sure, unless you repent, on your knees before God Almighty. You must have hearts of stone by now, to have caused so much pain. EVERYBODY IS SO SELFISH AND THINKING ONLY OF THEIR OWN PLEASURE. What about the poor children that are issue from these many broken marriages and relationships? Because of cheating Marriage is no longer a repectable institution. You cheaters and adulterers love it when the man is married, so that you can tear another woman’s household and heart apart. WHAT A HATEFUL ACT!!! Don’t you know that you’re really tearing yourself apart??
SHAME ON ALL CHEATERS AND ADULTERERS. Read your Bibles and see what God Almighty thinks of that kind of behavior.
Additionally, I notice that every kind act is geared toward making men happy, what about your happiness and true pleasure as women. When does your husband/man make you feel special? Is he consistently trying to please you or are you feeding his selfish, bloated ego. The last time I read my Bible, men are supposed to “LOVE THEIR WIVES AS THEIR OWN BODIES”. Not the other way around. You women have it all twisted and we’re all suffering for it. MEN ARE SUPPOSED TO LOVE WOMEN. Think about that and weigh and measure the love your man has for you.

Been There, Done That November 24, 2008, 4:25 PM

Men do cheat for a variety of reasons. I’ve been married for over 16 years and have strayed and regret it. My wife simply doesn’t want any sex. Once you go 9 months (or LONGER) without any, it’s very easy to fall to temptation. I do know guys who get plenty at home and STILL cheat, but many (like myself) would rather get their affection at home. I take my vows seriously but I don’t think it’s fair for me to take a vow of celibacy at the alter too.

Suebee November 25, 2008, 8:41 AM

I have been married for 20 years. Throughout this time, I found that when either of us needed attention and did not communicate, we felt used and unloved. The point is, a relationship hs to be based on communication. If you think of how the other person feels and you took the time to really get to know what they want and need and they know what you want and need, it all works out. Question is, are you looking for sex,a companion, or a relationship?

Howard November 25, 2008, 1:24 PM

My wife just found out I was talking to my ex and we were talking about sex. Sex didn’t happen but I believe it would’ve down the road. I was seeking a closure of a past relationship and all I did was get sucked in way to far. Of course I don’t think it’s right and now I have lost my wife. She may still be there but she’s gone spiritually. I have been the best husband for 97% of the time and now 3% is destroying me. If you are a good guy a previous ex will use that against you to hurt anyone you are with now.

As guys we are just dumb enough to let it happen.

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