Is it OK for a single mom to introduce her son to her dates?
Since filing for divorce in November 2006, Kate Hudson has been linked with her share of guys: Dax Shephard, Owen Wilson, and most recently, Lance Armstrong. In fact, on Father's Day, Kate and Ryder had brunch with ex Chris Robinson, his girlfriend, and Lance and his three kids. (Can you imagine?)
Kate seems to have a happy relationship with her son and ex-husband. But some have wondered if bringing so many men into her son's life is good for Ryder.
We spoke with single mother Rachel Sarah, author of Single Mom Seeking: Playdates, Blind Dates, and Other Dispatches from the Dating World, for her perspective.
"C'mon--Kate Hudson's been in three relationships since her divorce-- not three hundred," she says. "And Ryder's age makes these introductions much easier. When Kate started to date Dax Shepard, for instance, Ryder was 3 years old. As I said in my momlogic piece When Your Date Meets Your Kid: 'When you have a wee little one who's more interested in mashed bananas than mommy's boyfriend, this is easy-peasy.' Sure, Ryder was past the mashed bananas stage--he was still a preschooler. I don't think that little Ryder will be traumatized by that short of a love affair. In most of the celebrity sightings, Kate and Dax were seen on family outings with Ryder and her family. No doubt, the 3-year-old was being doted on by his grandparents."
She also wonders if Ryder already knew Lance Armstrong and his children through Owen Wilson. "Is it possible that their kids already knew each other?" she wonders. "After all, Kate's former ex, Owen Wilson, is good friends with Lance," (which is also kind of weird). "Perhaps they've already hung out together in social circles -- in which case, going out for brunch really wouldn't be such a big deal."
Rachel says it's the double standard that single moms face that really gets under her skin. "This is what irks me: We criticize celebrity single moms like Kate Hudson for dating again, and finding love, but how about the celebrity single dads?" she says. "Who's keeping them in check?"