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Open Letter to Courtney Love

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After seeing shocking photos that sparked concern for her and her daughter's safety, we felt compelled to send this rocker mom a wake-up call.

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Dear Courtney, we saw photos of you over the weekend where you look like a walking skeleton. We aren't entirely shocked when we see pictures like this -- maybe because we've seen them before. After all, your weight has yo-yoed up and down so many times, we can't even keep track anymore.

Your struggles over the years have been frequent, public, and messy. In 1992, Vanity Fair claimed you admitted to taking heroin while unknowingly carrying your daughter Frances Bean. You said your words were taken out of context, but you still had to fight the state for custody as a result. You won her back then, but are you still fighting for her? Because when we see pictures like that, we worry. Frances has already lost a father ... will she have to suffer the loss of her mother, too?

She's come close, it seems, many times. In 2003, you were arrested when breaking windows at your ex-boyfriend's home. After you were released on bail, you were rushed to the hospital for an accidental overdose--and Frances Bean was taken away from you and placed with the Department of Children and Family Services. It would be 15 long months before you regained custody of her.

That August 2004, you admitted to using drugs in violation of your probation. You were again sentenced to 28 days in rehab, but you violated that sentence. The next month, you were sentenced to six months in lock-down rehab, with house arrest following that. When you were released from house arrest, you said you were thankful for the time to take care of your daughter.

Are you still taking care of her?

This month, you claimed to be suicidal when Kurt Cobain's ashes were stolen from your Hollywood residence. "I can't believe anyone would take Kurt's ashes from me," you told The Guardian. "I find it disgusting and right now I'm suicidal. If I don't get them back, I don't know what I'll do."

Wake up, Courtney! You've got a 15-year-old child to live for. Even if you never get those ashes back, your daughter needs you.

Moms: What would you like to say to Courtney Love?

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15 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anita June 26, 2008, 10:13 AM

Leave her alone, she’s a good mom. Frances B. is a smart and beautiful girl.

Anonymous June 26, 2008, 10:28 AM

She is trainwreck. She looks scary in these photos. Get some help, Courtney! You’re lucky Frances’ grandmother has been such a stable influence in her life. The Bazaar shoot was so beautiful. You have a lot to live for.

Sarah W June 26, 2008, 12:20 PM

I dont think its our right to judge a mother we do not know. As a mother from what I read on this site id say maybe she is going through alot of things that us the public are not even aware of. But to put your child through all that…It seems unbelivable.A child never forgets the things us parents put them through. So good luck to both of them.

Pirouette  June 26, 2008, 3:12 PM

I am so sorry for this girl. It seems like we are always seeing some new star who is going over the edge.

Anonymous June 26, 2008, 4:14 PM

true

Anonymous June 26, 2008, 4:23 PM

Anita, just because Frances Bean is a beautiful and smart girl does not mean that she owes it all to her trainwreck of a mother. In case you haven’t noticed plenty of children are resilient enough to ignore the major errors of their parents and become adults that are an asset to society.

The bottom line is that bad parenting seems to be the new trend for Hollywood, what with drugs, 3 year old therapy, and nannies galore. Hopefully Courtney Love will get her act together for the sake of her daughter. But seeing as how the past 15 years have not really made her snap out of it, I am reluctant to believe in her ability to actually parent before Frances Bean is 18.

hipster June 26, 2008, 10:28 PM

Stop and think about it, what if YOUR husband commited suicide? How would you feel? Maybe she can’t deal with it. Even though they were considered by many (not me) as “just a couple of junkie rock stars”, doesn’t mean she didn’t love Kurt. And, remember - he took his own life- and left her to raise a child on her own.

Anonymous June 29, 2008, 8:46 PM

Courtney needs to go to a professional facility for awhile to get a handle on things. Frances Bean seems to be together in the pictures we see of her. I wouldn’t say Courtney is a good mom. A good mom would have cleaned up her act long ago and stop making an ass of herself in public again and again.

Jess July 2, 2008, 4:47 PM

Court’s really taken a nosedive this time and I feel extremely sorry for her :( But she can’t kill herself, Frances needs her, and you know, she needs Frances. The only thing keeping Courtney alive is her daughter

Vicky July 7, 2008, 7:18 AM

Weight is strictly a personal issue and nobody has the right to judge someone for being “too skinny” anymore than they do for being “too fat.” Given everything that’s happened to Courtney, especially with the recent loss of her husband’s ashes, it’s inevitable that her health might suffer and I think it’s ridiculous to blame her for it.

FB July 15, 2008, 1:23 AM

There’s a tenuous connection between what is portrayed in the press, and the reality of someone’s life. It’s too easy to judge from a distance, and reach conclusions based on scanty evidence.

Courtney’s paid a high price for all of her success. My warmest wishes go to Courtney and Frances Bean, and hopes for their happiness and well-being.

Kit August 15, 2008, 2:30 PM

Does your weight have anything to do with what kind of parent you are ?

Hm. Most of the US is overweight from eating out, and feeding thier kids convenience foods, the kids are overweight: its the number one health related issue facing public health today.

Frances us fine, but her mom’s been ripped off by so many people its amazing. Research the facts, managers, friends borrowing money to record albums (Ryan Adams owes her 3 quarters of a million), Courtney and Frances Bean have been Bank of America for every leech in LA. I’d be stressed, too.

Suzie S.  August 29, 2008, 6:18 PM

Although the pictures ARE upsetting, NO ONE has the right to publicly write a open letter to another person,even if they are a celebrity, pointing out all of their past mistakes and “play God” by telling them how to run their life.

The courts are watching Courtney, as they have been for years, and Kurt Cobain’s mother shares in caring for Frances Bean.

How would the writer of this open letter like their own personal mistakes shoved in their face, along with judgmental advice? Not much, I think.

IF, Courtney Love is suffering from an eating disorder, she needs love and support, NOT degrading letters like this one.

The writers of this article need to wake up and offer HELP, not JUDGEMENT.




Nik January 8, 2009, 9:15 PM

How can we help her if we first don’t judge that she needs help?

The Power of Judgement. You should read Kant’s third Critique about it. I think it’ll clear a lot of things up on this situation.

Sarah Buchanan March 18, 2009, 2:09 AM

Courtney has good intentions - she didn’t choose to have an addictive personality. She’s gone through hell and back, and she needs the media to be more kind to her, especially since she’s just gotten out of rehab, and her life is in a more stable place. She’s a talented, beautiful woman, with a gorgeous daughter. No matter how much she’s gone through, she loves her daughter more than anyone in the world, and we owe her the credit to acknowledge that.

Miss Buchanan XOXO


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