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The other woman wants you to know--your husband is cheating and she's loving it. Find out why.

It feels like an epidemic. From politicians sleeping with high-priced prostitutes, the cover of New York magazine revealing The Secret Lives of Married Men and recent allegations in Vanity Fair magazine that former president Clinton had an affair with actress Gina Gershon, we're constantly being bombarded with reports about infidelity.

Research shows up to 60% of men will have affairs while they're married. That's 3 out of 5! What drives them to do it, and what can we do to make sure it doesn't happen to us?

We went straight to the source to uncover the real story about why our husbands are cheating. You'll hear from four self-proclaimed mistresses and a loud and proud prostitute as they reveal why our husbands are turning to them for sex and companionship. No woman expects her husband will be the one who cheats. But the odds aren't in your favor. Find out why, how you can tell, and what you can do if it's happening to you. 

Have you ever wondered what married men tell their mistresses about you and why they're cheating?

Find out what your husband tells HER about YOU and what you can do to affair-proof your marriage right NOW. Click on part 2 below.

Take our Sex, Lies and Cheating Poll.


Click here to see the Hollywood's Rumored 'Other Women' Gallery.

About the Experts...
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Shannon Fox is a licensed family therapist in Los Angeles and a mother of three.
  rabbi sherre hirsch
Rabbi Sherre Hirsch is a mother of three and the author of We Plan, God Laughs, and offers non-denominational spiritual advice.


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222 comments so far | Post a comment now
Tigger June 3, 2008, 8:36 PM

Cheating? Where does it all start? Why, with the person who contemplates cheating, wether it be the husband or wife! it all starts when one or both spouses get all the attention that is not AFFORDED THEM AT HOME! Men have to understand the role of a wife, not to see her as a “SERVANT”, but as an EQUAL!, even though you are two separate individuals, yet, one in spirit! Do you understand the meaning of this? If you want to “affair-proof” your marriage, then do your duty. Be there for one another, be each other’s pillar of strength, joy, confidant, communicator, best friend and so on. Treat each other the WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED. If either of you have to blow up when you have an argument, this shows selfishness, meaning you want your own way and not care how the other one is feeling about the issue before you. Thinking of cheating with someone else, just because what is missing at home, you approach it elsewhere, when you see that, THEN BE THE FIRST ONE TO BRING ABOUT WHAT IS MISSING IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

gary June 3, 2008, 8:38 PM

Why are the men singled out as having the affair??? Obviously different men are having affairs with different with women! There are just as many women doing it as men.

ZTinkey June 3, 2008, 8:41 PM

My first husband cheated on me with a friend of ours. I got my revenge w/o having to do anything when he was at work she was giving oral sex to his friends for money. I didn’t blame her I blamed him. He was the one I married. Ladies I know it’s easy to blame the other woman but she doesn’t owe you anything, he does. If it would not have been her it would have been someone else.I learned alot and brought that into my second marriage.

lyninnj June 3, 2008, 8:43 PM

woman who cheat on their husbands because they don’t get what they need at home are whores but it’s ok for the men to do it. Come on…let’s get real here. You can bend over backwards for your spouse and if they have the “hunt” syndrome they are going to go prowl I don’t care if it is female or male, it takes 2 to play the game.

Curt June 3, 2008, 8:44 PM

I think that men cheat because they need someone new, different and exciting and to also feel that they are desirable to other women….

Anonymous June 3, 2008, 8:47 PM

I am a married woman that has been having an on going affair with a married man for 10 years. This has worked well for both of us because our spouses are not as sexually charged as we are. Neither one of us want to change our married situation but we both deserve to have fulfilling sex lives.

TRooTH June 3, 2008, 8:47 PM

C’mon. Thanks for added another unneccessary fear for women. Thank you for tryin to polute their minds into believing that most men are cheating, and that it actually something that women can do to prevent it. Bullisht.

tommy June 3, 2008, 8:49 PM

I use to run on the wild side cheating, playing etc. Met the right women 19 years this june and dont even think of other women. Its hard to find the right one but when you do the rest is easy.

fran kopas June 3, 2008, 8:52 PM

Perhaps if the media never began to glorify “cheating” things would have never gotten so wildly out of hand.

Politicians and the hookers they mess with receive the glory, the married men and women “doing it at the office” receive the glory.
It’s become trendy… much like pregnancies in Hollywood…much like Hollywooders adopting overseas youngins…much like bisexuality in middle schools, much like orla sex warrants a special color bracelet…much like sex with several different partners weekly…much like, “who needs a man to have a baby”
Damn my head is whirlin and a twirlin!

TRooTH June 3, 2008, 8:55 PM

It is sooo funny to hear all of you whineyass chicks complain about men leaving women. I’ve seen it happen to men plenty f times as well. It is an ERA of unfaithfulness among BOTH sexes. People don’t know how to commit and love eachother unselfishly anymore. If you withold from your husband, kudos for him cheating, youu are selfish. That goes both ways. If your husband does not esect you, leave then. Dont be nhappy for the rest of your life. It is TOO SHORT.

Anonymous June 3, 2008, 8:59 PM

John R I feel sorry for you because it is apparent you are a person with low self esteem about yourself. Life is too short not to commit to somebody who you fell in love with because of fear one of you will cheat or let yourselves go yo hell in a basket and give up romance. Not everybody does that John. There are some couples who actually enjoy staying fit together and sharing their life as an equal side by side. It takes two to keep this thing called partnership thrilling and exciting. It can be and is done everyday. Don’t be afraid to follow your heart just because your friends screwed up.

Anonymous June 3, 2008, 9:01 PM

Both sexes cheat… we can’t help that we are attracted to many people… there’s always the thought “the grass is greener on the other side”

Dee June 3, 2008, 9:04 PM

I have the read the article as well as the various comments. It would appear that our society is headed in the wrong direction on so many levels. What happened to old fashioned commitment,loyalty and respect both inside and outside of a marital relationship? Have we lost our minds? Can we not work together in a relationhip while trying to honor promises made? I feel sorry for all who have to endlessly prove their virility and attractiveness while betraying the one they supposedly love. Selfishness and greed appear to be on the upswing….

John June 3, 2008, 9:04 PM

I been marry twice the first one pass away 113 years ago I will say i cheated on her once and I hated myself for it she ever knew. the second wife i never cheated on but after 5 years together she started cheating on me and i found out 3 three’s later about all the men she been with and she said cause she don’t get it as much as she wants, turn out she a wh**** her self and try to reacher her 16 year old daugther to use men with sex. and now she plannubg on letting our 11 year old stay with a 40 year old ex boy friend of hers for a week thats how sick a sex assaict be. i am with the third woman in my life now and i can trust her with my life.

Melissa June 3, 2008, 9:06 PM

Well, he won’t cheat on me because he respects me and we spend almost every moment together. Besides the prenup will leave him with nothing if he gets caught.

I also keep him so very busy working around the house chopping wood, landscaping, digging out the garden, caring for the quail, updating plumbing, electric water, solar, water etc, sheetrocking the attic or any room, painting the garage etc… get my point? so much that he’s too exhausted to sneak out.

Besides, I have all the money and he doesn’t spend any without me… mr. muscles would have to find a rich babe to pay his way completely… He loves staying busy and the house is starting to look like a castle.

petra June 3, 2008, 9:06 PM

Hello women that are waiting for these married men to leave their wives for you, how many of them actually do? How many bdays and holidays do you spend alone while he is lying to you about leaving her? My mom’s best friend was with a married man from 19 to 46. He kept telling her dumb butt he would leave his wife, he never did. She is now childless and alone. Be woman enough to get your own man, even if he does leave his wife for you he’ll do to you what he did to her. For the most part once a cheater awlays a cheater.

Heidi W June 3, 2008, 9:10 PM

Did “Sarah” (on tape) Dupe Oprah Winfrey? It seems so!
The first woman on this segment - “Sarah” says, “I’ve had enough affairs with married men to be a complete expert on the subject” Well, she is the EXACT SAME WOMAN who, earlier this year was on a segment of the Oprah Winfrey show on the “other Woman” and there Miss Sarah sat on Oprah’s stage crying her eyes out about how this married man broke her heart and how she would never ever have become the “other woman” if she had known he was married, how she never did this before and would never do it again… yada, yada, yada! Now, here on this MomLogic tape we have her bragging about having affairs with married men!
So…did she dupe Oprah Winfrey… or MomLogic? In either case, she lied to somebody, so why should we believe anything she says about what our men want and need ….!!!! Anyone else remember that Oprah segment on “the other woman” that featured “Sarah”?

Anonymous June 3, 2008, 9:11 PM

What about the innocent person who believes the man she is with is single, and then finds out from his wife that he is married with an infant? Cheaters ruin the lives of everyone involved.

Anonymous June 3, 2008, 9:13 PM

Cheating is often the last resort for a spouse who can not get the response he/she wants from his/her partner. Many husbands/wives who resort to cheating have been in a power struggle with their spouses for a number of reasons and usually, for many years. The mistress or man that they choose is not chosen for their particular qualities…….rather, they are chosen for the reaction that the spouse is failing to provide, be it sexual, emotional, or intellectual…..My late husband and I loved each other with all our hearts, yet had unresolved issues (like 90% of the population) and lacked the knowledge and yes, probably, the will to fix it……And then one of us cheated. And then, we BOTH realized it was either over or required a concerted effort to fix the problem. And, as we both knew we loved each other and always would, we both were willing to do whatever was necessary. It wasn’t easy, it wasn’t comfortable, but we both knew that had we done the work 15 years earlier we would have saved a lot of heartache and enjoyed those years so much more. He died six years after we finally fixed our marriage……we would lie in bed at night and regret those fifteen years we could have enjoyed each other as much as we loved each other…….

ltj June 3, 2008, 9:14 PM

Come one, Tke care of your husbands needs and you don’t have to worry about it. Women neglect the needs of thier man and then are surprised when they stray! Men have an obligation to abide by the vows they took, but women have an obligation to take core of the mans needs. You know they have them, but choose to forget about them once you are married. EVERYONE has some of the blame. If you are not willing to take care of eachother don’t get married!

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