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Who's Sleeping with Your Husband? Part 2

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Why are our husbands risking marriage and family for sex with them?

In Part 1 of our MomLogic Investigation, we spoke to 5 women who all admit to sleeping with married men. Some do it for the money and some do it for the thrills...but all of them admit that they never even consider their lovers' wives and children sitting at home.

But what exactly is it that makes men willing to risk it all for a romp in the hay? All of the "other women" we spoke to agreed that there is at least ONE thing that we can do to help fight infidelity in our marriages.

Coming you can tell if your husband is cheating and what can you do if he is. Momlogic went straight to the "other women" for advice on how to catch a cheating hubby and what you can do to keep it from happening in the first place. This could save your marriage!

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About the Experts...
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Shannon Fox is a licensed family therapist in Los Angeles and a mother of three.
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Rabbi Sherre Hirsch is a mother of three and the author of We Plan, God Laughs, and offers non-denominational spiritual advice.


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Anonymous June 3, 2008, 8:14 PM

where is the special about how to tell that your wife is cheating?

Jen June 3, 2008, 8:18 PM

Let us not worry too much. Maybe we should be looking somewhere else too!

lynnann June 3, 2008, 8:26 PM

Ok, what about all the woman out there such as myself who are willing to do what ever it takes. These mistresses are full of crap. There are husbands out there not willing to do the same thing to a woman- these woman are saying is the reason most men cheat..Then lie to these people just cause they know that they can..To make the guilt seem more easy to swallow..Easy is easy—YOU ARE HOMEWRECKERS!
Men cheat b/c you make it easy not to.

Cynthia June 3, 2008, 8:35 PM

For 10 years I gave my husband everything he wanted when he wanted sex he got it . Never turned him down he wanted oral he got oral. Last summer he had an affair and told me he didn’t love me anymore and had been sleeping around one me for 7 years. Everything was my fault why he did it. I blamed myself at first then I woke up and realized I was not the one at fault. When I tried to kick him out told him I had had enough. Then it was I’m sorry I made mistakes I love you I want us to work out. So I’m sorry these women that say the wife don’t give men what they need at home and there gonna get it somewhere else that is a bunch of BULL. these women want what another woman has and don’t care who they hurt or what this does to the kids how it destroys them there nothing but self centered and selfish and deserve everything they get.

JaneDoh June 3, 2008, 8:52 PM

Then there are those of us wives who have been faithful while our husbands are God knows where, doing God knows what/who and only wish we could do the same!
I’m thinking term limits on marriage would be a good start. Ohh sorry… your 7 years is up and I choose NOT to renew our vows!

Donna June 3, 2008, 8:52 PM

They are trailer trash, plain and simple. They would sell their soul to the devil.

Karine June 3, 2008, 8:54 PM

Cynthia on June 3, 2008 8:35 PM wrote:

For 10 years I gave my husband everything he wanted when he wanted sex he got it . Never turned him down he wanted oral he got oral. Last summer he had an affair and told me he didn’t love me anymore and had been sleeping around one me for 7 years.
sorry Cynthia but you sound as if you did CHARITY by giving him BJ’s etc etc -as if it was some tough chore ! No wonder he went looking elswhere!

I had a husband that cheated - I had it coming because I met him when he was still married.. What made me think he would treat me differently .. Oh well - I chuck it up for experience. And then.. some men are just stray dogs - no big deal - just don’t blame it on the women - they are not the home wreckers …

Dawn. June 3, 2008, 8:58 PM

When a person has an affair they usually try to blame the other person to whom they are married to. In reality it has nothing to do with that person they are married to…it is all about them & their insecurities! You can bend over backwards doing everything 4 them so they won’t cheat but they still will because they are the problem. Unless they get help with their issues…you will have no control no matter what you do. They need help & have 2 want 2 get the help to figure out the reasons about themselves.

Diane June 3, 2008, 9:04 PM

I was married for 25 years. I did it all, oral, dressing up, massages,roll playing etc. I gave and gave. I then found out he was interested in “animal” Porn, and was obessed with sex.I just couldn’t take it anymore! I think men are just men. They like the “chase”.During my marriage I had red flags I blew off as my imagination. Never egnore them is my advice. You will eventually save yourself time and humiliation. I finally woke up and left!

Jean June 3, 2008, 9:04 PM

I feel so angry and hurt about husbands cheating. I do all I can to keep my relationship going in EVERY way. I am always so concerned about my looks and my weight - afraid that someone may interest him more than me because I am getting older. My husband listens to Bubba the love sponge who says that woman over the age of 40 are disguesting….I am over 40. My husband has a beer belly and he doesn’t worry at all. He says that men look more distinquished as they get older. Woman just get old.
I work all kinds of hours but so does he. BUT-guess who gets pampered and who does not?
I ask him all the time to take me out and he says he has no interest because he is a homebody. I would I love to go out on a date—just to feel good about myself but when I plan something and he does go—he falls asleep in the car and acts so uninterested that I think I should just forget it. AND-yes, I do try to find things that HE likes—not just me. GUY MOVIES, etc.
I know that he would probably find another woman attractive and have an affair because he thinks I should just do everything and ask for nothing. If I try talking to him about it he gets very defensive and angry—-
We HAVE tried counseling and they always try to get him to be more understanding….I read a book on Passive-Aggressive men and I am sure that he is one. If he cheats—I am sure that he will say that it is totally my fault. :(

Anonymous June 3, 2008, 9:07 PM

i loved being the other women however being the other women has made me have the best friend i have and the best husband in the world

Jennifer T June 3, 2008, 9:08 PM

I am 37 and have a family. I think its unrealistic to expect a man NOT to cheat on you. If you are going to spend your entire life with one man, you should be realistic, and expect that someday it will likely happen. Are you going to throw away an otherwise good marriage and family because of it? The main concern should be disease exposure, and safety. That is the main problem with cheating.

Chris M June 3, 2008, 9:17 PM

Jennifer T,
does that mean that you have/or will cheat on your husband. If yes, then I guess you have a pragmatic and different way of living life. Good for you I hope it works out. If the answer is no then maybe you should see that men should be held to the same standards as women.

Whatever June 3, 2008, 9:20 PM

All I can say is, so what, let the tramps be together, better her to live with a pig than you. Some women will do anything for a man, and have no sisterhood whatsoever. Your man dont really want them, they just think they do because nobody else does. Put a bow around his head and place him on her doorstep, with an empty wallet and two kids on his back…hey its a package deal.

SocWkrTara June 3, 2008, 9:23 PM

I say if they can’t live within the committment they made (and this applies to the man or woman), then just move on. But frankly, it’s selfish for either partner to believe that they have the right to remain in a relationship and pretend to be committed and playing by the rules while stepping out on the sly. Man up, be honest, take your licks and move out. Pay the alimoney or child support, learn to live alone and do your own laundry if that’s what you want but you shouldn’t get your cake and eat it too! My hubby is great but is welcome to leave any time he wants - he knows where the door is. Cheating is just unnecessary and is all about ego, period. Anytime he decides I’m not enough for him, he can pack up and move along. But if I catch him cheating, he’ll pay. The same should apply to every marriage out there.

annymous June 3, 2008, 9:25 PM

My wife doesn’t work outside tne home, the kids make their own breakfast, dinner is rarely prepared, except weekends, (that’s when I cook.) The house is always messy, I do 90% of the laundry but after more than 10 years of marriage I get the I am too tired resonse most of the time. She naps every day when the kids are in school and during the summer she is in bed until 10 or 11.

Affair - at least there would be something to look forward to.

anyonmous June 3, 2008, 9:30 PM

I was married for 13 years. I also was a wife who did everything- but I did it because I loved my hudband. I found out that he had been seeing a “skank” that he worked with. This devastated my family. But- the other woman didn’t care and still doesn’t care that he has a family. They have since married and she treats my chldren like dirt and has obviously has taken away my ex’es balls- because now she has his house, etc and she rules the roost. So as they say- the grass isn’t always greener”. They deserve each other- but the one who suffers the most from this are the children.

flowers2b June 3, 2008, 9:33 PM

Communication is the key. How many couples have actually sat down and verbally discussed their wants/needs in the arena of monogomy?
My husband and I have sat down and discussed our marriage. We have thoroughly contemplated the views that there is a difference between love and sex - we can go elsewhere for protected sex, but come home for love. It has worked for many, many years - for us. It is definately not for every couple, as the couple must both agree to put out jealousy. Communication is the key.

rebeca June 3, 2008, 9:36 PM

I’ve been married for 6 yrs, and we have both cheated in our marriage. My husband did first, and when he told me i went out and cheated on him. It was of course to get revenge for what he did , but I was the one living with the guilt. To top it off i cheated with a married man. I became the woman i hated the most, a homewrecker. Women need to realize that if a man is not happy at home he is going to go elsewhere to try to find that happiness, even if it is temporary. My husband cheated because of the problems in our marriage and he was young and stupid. I learned the hard way that if you’re there for you’re husband not just as a wife, but as a friend and a sexual Goddess he wont have no reason to go out and cheat. Now if there’s a man that just has cheating in his DNA then leave him he will never change. Women that pursue married man in my experience and opinion have serious low self esteem issues and feel they need validation with competing with the wife.

widow lady June 3, 2008, 9:40 PM

My husband of 29 years found a woman and had an affair. I confronted him gently. He admitted it and took his life 2 days later. Devastated his family. Then I met the woman. She had no idea he was married, he told her we were divorced. I liked her. Sometimes we do all we can, and it still falls apart. 5 years later, I am picking up the pieces, and I’m still lonely.

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