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Who's Sleeping with Your Husband? Part 2

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Why are our husbands risking marriage and family for sex with them?

In Part 1 of our MomLogic Investigation, we spoke to 5 women who all admit to sleeping with married men. Some do it for the money and some do it for the thrills...but all of them admit that they never even consider their lovers' wives and children sitting at home.

But what exactly is it that makes men willing to risk it all for a romp in the hay? All of the "other women" we spoke to agreed that there is at least ONE thing that we can do to help fight infidelity in our marriages.

Coming you can tell if your husband is cheating and what can you do if he is. Momlogic went straight to the "other women" for advice on how to catch a cheating hubby and what you can do to keep it from happening in the first place. This could save your marriage!

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About the Experts...
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Shannon Fox is a licensed family therapist in Los Angeles and a mother of three.
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Rabbi Sherre Hirsch is a mother of three and the author of We Plan, God Laughs, and offers non-denominational spiritual advice.


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Sha June 4, 2008, 2:35 AM

If your a mistress and you say you love him and he loves you.but wont leave his wife..

All I can say is he might think he loves you but he sure doesnt love you enough

Pushed June 4, 2008, 2:35 AM

My ex had 6 affairs while we were married. When I nailed him on it his response was “I don’t see what the big deal is”. I kid you not, he did not understand why it upset me. He grew up knowing his dad cheated on his mother and she never said boo about it. He assumed it was ok to have affairs. The woman he left me for… he said she was his pot smoking buddy. Mid-life crisis and men think they’re 18 again. He walked on our 26th anniversary, had the utilities cut off on the house, tried to force me out of the home we raised our daughter in so he and the little woman could move in and!! left in my car then gave it to his girlfriend.
That’s bad enough, but what’s worse… the court has not made him pay a penny of the divorce settlement. He was summoned for contempt of court and didn’t show. That was a month ago and my lawyer said the judge still has not signed the order to have him picked up.
Men get away with crap like this when their children are no longer minors.
I don’t care what therapists say about why men do this, or what the other women say… some men just don’t care, period to paragraph.

Brian June 4, 2008, 2:36 AM

Yes, men, love your wives. And wives, love your husbands. Especially if you’ve not been kind to him, if you’ve not appreciated him, and yet he’s resisted daily temptation. No man is going to live up to some of your irrational expectations, just as any reasonable man doesn’t expect his wife to be perfect either. A bit much man-bashing here and it’s unfair. Perhaps it’s best if men and women try to understand each other it would be better. It doesn’t do men or women any good to say to each other, “You shouldn’t need that.” That doesn’t change reality.

Astonished June 4, 2008, 2:47 AM

The women who look for or get involved with married men are selfish and very ignorant. If a man will cheat on a woman he has vowed to love “till death do us part” with you, he will leave you for the next more exciting thing to come along. If your spouse cheats once don’t give him a second opportunity.

gorobei June 4, 2008, 3:23 AM

Brian, who wrote at 2:20 a.m. on 4 June 2008, you seem like a really decent sort of guy. Why your wife treats you like that probably has more to do with how she feels about herself than how she really feels about you. If you really do love her and want to stick it out, I’d suggest both you and she immediate start marriage counseling so that your wife can realize what she is doing. She undoubtedly feels badly that you can handle the child-raising work without the difficulty she had and she’s probably feeling inadequate in all sorts of ways, which is why she puts you down. If you love her still, you can improve your marriage and make the relationship closer to what you want, which seems like a loving and intimate relationship from both directions (yours and hers), but you must take action now. If you let it go any longer, you’re just going to get bitter, and then you’re going to meet someone who really appreciates the guy that you are, and you’re going to want out. Counseling will only work if you really want to have that loving, intimate relationship with your wife, though. If you’re already bitter and/or don’t really love her, it’s probably too late. Best of luck to you! I hope things work out.

Toni June 4, 2008, 3:28 AM

Hi i would like to comment on writing from Brian, who is ‘faithful’ to his constantly complaining’wife, i salute you, all the same you also need to find the means urgently to be as open about this to your wife what you so openly talk of ;confide and communicate this across asap as painful as it might seem, you owe it to yourself if you still love her.

gorobei June 4, 2008, 3:33 AM

Isabel, who wrote at 1:52 a.m. on 4 June 2008, you are so right in so much of what you have to say that I think you are one of the few people anywhere who understand the true nature of the married relationship. I don’t know about most, but I think many, many men who have affairs actually do love their wives, and yes, they do compartmentalize their true feelings from sex, but yes, sometimes they really do also love the other woman. Although the wife does suffer tremendously, as you have pointed out, the other woman suffers greatly as well. The other woman is not always a predator as many think. Sometimes she is just another lonely soul in need of love like anyone else. But yes, it is a one-way ticket to pain, as you say.

Jamie June 4, 2008, 3:43 AM

Perhaps if these men actually grew up and pitched in on raising the children and helping with the housework their wives wouldn’t be exausted and would “have some time for them.”

Oh yes,and as for the wives “gaining weight and letting themselves go” sorry,but these women in this video aren’t all that. The one with the black,frizzed out hair looks like a grandma and the blondes look like low rent porno actresses and the black chick is fat,so how are these whores better than the women they’re commenting on? Oh please!!

ken June 4, 2008, 4:30 AM

I tip my hat to the blog owner. I think this is actually a good and healthy outlet to vent your frustrations in what is going wrong in your marriage that could cause you to possibly cheat on your spouse and even prevent it from happening

Joe June 4, 2008, 4:50 AM

Isabelle who posted at 1:52 am, you do, I think, understand and explain this part of being human. I try to be the best person I can be, control myself in all aspects of my life. I work hard, improve my mind,am honest, control what I eat but no matter how hard I try I can not control my lust for women. I gave up being married, I can not do it, I will always want to stray and now knowing myself better I will never put myself in a position where I am forced to be monogomous. It doth go both ways though and although women are not as predisposed to infidelity I can vouch that I have become the “mister” for several married women over the course of the last few years.
If I ever commit to anyone ever again it will be in a mutually open relationship where we hide nothing from one another and share in our mutual enjoyment of the joys and thrills of exploring new partners. I think everyone , men and women, lust after others. As Benjamin Franklin said, everything in moderation. I am a much happier person now that I am not constantly trying to extinguish my primal lust for new partners.

Hermes June 4, 2008, 5:30 AM

I watched a movie last week where a women sued the mistress and was awarded one million dollars, a true story. I believe it happened in North Carolina. Alienation of affection, something
every state needs to adapt then maybe these men wouldn’t take their marriages so lightly.
For all you mistresses- wake up and smell the Starbucks, these guys are not leaving for you, they simply want their cake and eat it too.

outinTX June 4, 2008, 5:38 AM

when you truly love someone I don’t think you would be sidetracked by a good looking man or woman. I have been in love only once in my life and I would crawl over broken glass for that person. I NEVER once cheated nor flirted with anyone while we were together and although our relationship lasted only 4 years the were the best years of my life. A life changing experience where we both almost got killed in a traffic accident one yr. bonded us. What hurts me now is that only months later an aneurism would take the love of my life. I’m grateful for the opportunity to have experienced true love. Our entire relationship I never felt the urge to stray, never got thrills out of flirting and never looked at others for temporary satisfaction. Cheating will NEVER happen if you really love that person and I feel like thats why so many end in divorce and infidelity; true love doesn’t exist within the relationship.

Car June 4, 2008, 5:46 AM

Is all this junk worth it — life is too short for so much worthless drama…i hope the next level is better than this emo mess

hele June 4, 2008, 6:07 AM

They say 90 percent of GOOD men are either married or gay!!!

The single men do not leave us much to offer—-with all the advice they get from radio guru’s about having to spend the least on us and still get us into bed …and then on to the next

what choice do we have if not a married guy, an incompetent jerk who just wants to get us into bed…

at least the married guys are decent towards us!!!

You single men should be ashamed of yourselves!

It is your own danm fault!!!

and don’t blame the Ladies…blame the miserable bastard…whom cheated in the first place

Because if he hadn’t cheated with you….it would be some other woman!!!

jules June 4, 2008, 8:02 AM

I am very interested in seeing the videos for part two and part three. They are not functioning.

beentheredonethat June 4, 2008, 9:42 AM

I finally figured it out. Most men do not understand the pain of being cheated on simply because they have never experienced that kind of pain? That is why they don’t GET IT! I know darn well that if I cheated on HIM, not only would he not forgive, he would never forget until AFTER HE DIVORCED ME. Why the double standard? OK, I forgave. However, forget… PULEASE! I don’t bring it up (not since my New Years resolution). He can’t forget seem his tragic childhood. BECAUSE IT HURT SO BAD. He has obviously moved on, but you DON’T FORGET something that hurts so bad. Same concept. I don’t care who you are. You get past it, not over it!
If a person knew the pain of being cheated on, they would NEVER expect someone to “get over it”. STICK TO YOUR VOWS AND PROMISES AND WE WOULDN’T BE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION!

Anon June 4, 2008, 6:53 PM

Seriously, I can’t believe how ‘holier than thou’ some of you are.
Giving birth doesn’t automatically make you a wonderful, moral human being.
And being the other woman doesn’t make you a monster.
Look in the mirror.. I doubt you’re that perfect.

Carole June 5, 2008, 12:44 AM

I have found an excellent infidelity coach for men and women looking for fulfillment outside their marriages. Marilyn helped me find that there were better ways.

puzzled June 28, 2008, 7:57 AM

my question is..if you are doing all of the right things..always ready / willing / available to make love…cooking / cleaning..supportive..what would make the husband want to cheat then when he has never been denied at home & has a good woman…

Charlie July 2, 2008, 7:44 PM

just because women dont always have sex because they are bringing up their husbands children which i’m guessing he has little to no hand in, that justifies cheating? its call cheating for a reason. how dare these women try to justify themselves? or the husbands for that matter- blaming the wife? you’ve got to be kidding. i understand there are some circumstances that might drive men into another woman’s arms, but did they even try to work things out? did they try talking to their wives? why not just get a divorce? its the thrill huh? why is it such a double standard for married women to have affairs? cause she’s a mom? its all bullshit. keep it in your pants. you are married- if you cant handle it, get out- she doesnt need you.

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