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Who's Sleeping with Your Husband? Part 4

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Women everywhere have been glued to this week's investigation featuring mistresses who reveal how and why they hook up with married men. Today, a cheater reveals why he does it and why he has no plans to stop.

Jake, 36, says, "All guys cheat, that's an absolute fact." But is he a pig or totally right? When we asked him about his love of escorts, he revealed, "They come over and have sex. They get up and leave. It's the best thing ever created."

In Part 1 of our momlogic investigation, we spoke to five women who all admit to sleeping with married men. Some do it for the money and some do it for the thrills ... but all of them admit that they never even consider their lovers' wives and children sitting at home.

In Part 2, the "other women" revealed EXACTLY what makes men willing to risk it all for a romp in the hay. Every mistress we spoke to agreed there's at least ONE thing wives can do to help fight infidelity in their marriages.

In Part 3 the "other women" reveal how to catch these slick, unfaithful hubbies and what -- if anything -- can be done to keep it from happening in the first place. Who knew the mistress could actually save your marriage?

Tomorrow...Ask a Prostitute: The top 10 questions moms want answered.

Take our sex, lies and cheating poll...(come on, you know you want to)


Click here to see Hollywood's Rumored 'Other Women' Gallery.

About the Experts...
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Shannon Fox is a licensed family therapist in Los Angeles and a mother of three.
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Rabbi Sherre Hirsch is a mother of three and the author of We Plan, God Laughs, and offers non-denominational spiritual advice.


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33 comments so far | Post a comment now
Anonymous June 5, 2008, 10:43 AM

It’s not true that all guys cheat, but if I didn’t know one personally, I’d think it was, cause most guys I know do.

Amber June 5, 2008, 1:12 PM

So just because he cheats with escorts that equals ALL men do? I do know a few men who have cheated, not married men though. In my experience women cheat more than men.

John June 5, 2008, 11:11 PM

The Bible says that if you even look at a woman and lust after her you have already sined

Anonymous June 6, 2008, 7:24 AM

wow he really seems exactly like an “everyman”. Please he is disgusting looking and just plain lame. Everything that he says I have heard men who need people to think they are important say. No wonder he has to pay for it.

Marsha  June 6, 2008, 8:30 AM

I actually feel sorry and am sad for this Jake guy . He as such low self esteem to continue to put himself in such a dangerous situation . I look for him to die lonely of some disease from his sexual playing around . When I look at him I see a man using that term loosely that is afraid to have a relationship with a woman . He is a little boy in a man’s suit .

Anonymous June 6, 2008, 3:56 PM

Well to be fair he said something about all men cheating or thinking about it. I am a guy, I have not cheated (15 years married), but I would be a huge liar if I said I never thought about it.

Jake  June 7, 2008, 12:40 AM

Anonymous married for 15 years :
Wonder if your wife senses that you have thought about cheating , I hope not. Looking at other women and men think is normal even for us married people . Thinking about cheating is another thing , not sure what you meant . I hope your wife does not read your message and know it is you , if she does you have done some damage to her and your marriage my friend .

wendy June 7, 2008, 9:10 PM

We have been having a discussion on the strength of marriages in our book club of over 30 moms. We just finished reading a novel that should be required reading for all moms and women who are unhappy in their marriages, “The Book of Mom” by Taylor Wilshire. It is not only laugh out loud funny and a kind of a book that you can’t put down but the main character goes through marriage counceling and really addresses how to make a marriage work. You should be discussing this book because it offers solutions and insights on all aspects of marriage, not to mention motherhood.

wendy65 June 12, 2008, 2:02 AM

well lisa ..I wouldn’t care if patrick had ten girlfriends..He hot!!and his girlfriends not..she’s older and looks it.I’m sure he thinks about me when he’s with debrakay…Dumb blonde ..she already had 1 husband she let it on his butt for 5 years and cheated.Now she’s not paying attention again..sorry for her luck..thanks god for mine!!! Love is blind

Sonny July 7, 2008, 9:27 AM

I’m a 36 yr old male, I’m a personal trainer and have had many sexual and non-sexual personal experiences with married women, and I’d like to add to this discussion and maybe shed some light to this. First of all, I’m single and hope to stay that way (me and George Clooney, lol). I never hit on married women, ever. If I were to meet one of you here for lunch, it would be a pleasant experience for both of us, but I wouldn’t hit on you at all. The prototype woman who seems interested in an affair is one who’s not happy in the marriage, but is not really in a ‘bad’ marriage. Most of all these women feel unappreciated and not listened to. They feel bored and taken for granted. Sometimes I’m given the green light by their husbands to spend more time with their wives, outside of being a trainer, such as escorting them to parties or functions that they (the husbands) don’t feel like going to. I’ve been a trainer for 14 years now and its been quite an experience. Understand that not all the personal time I spend with these women end with sex, but many of them do. If I were asked what the biggest cause of divorce is, outside of blatant abuse, I would say that a lot of married people I know think divorce will never happen to them, its always ‘someone else’ and they don’t put in the necessary work to maintain a strong marriage. If anyone would like to discuss this, I’m here a lot between clients. Have a great day.

Tommy July 21, 2008, 3:54 AM

Fascinating. “All” men cheat. Last time I checked I was a man and I have NEVER cheated and NEVER would.

shelly August 1, 2008, 12:46 AM

I think men can have the best thing in there face n not a clue how to make her happy because he is to busy cheating n thinks I don’t know I wish there were good men outthere

Gettin'By August 11, 2008, 1:43 AM

I have two things to say. First, I am completely disgusted with all the cheating going on. And it is just going to get worse. We have puplic figures like Clinton and Edwards in the polital spotlight. So many more in hollywood. This is not middle-America. These are individuals, but it is rammed down to my children that this is what happens.

Second, my wife cheated on me. I found out. She continued. And so on for three or four iterations. It is still a horrible feeling.

For those of you who have, are currently, or just thinking about cheating let me just shout something out to you: CHEATING CAUSES DISASTER. It is disasterous to the relationship. It is disasterous towards your children. It is disasteraus to your friends (don’t kid yourself, they are talking about you). It is disasterous towards your own day-to-day life and quite possibly your job.

It is not worth it.

Even if you get away with it, you have to live with it and worry about your spouse finding out. Oh did I mention God? But I saved that for last because if you don’t “believe” all the other stuff still applies.

This is coming from a spouse who was cheated on. My life has been hell-on-earth. That is the feeling that you give us when you do this.

Make the right decisions.

Lindy August 12, 2008, 10:11 PM

Some husbands cheat just because they can—their egos simply crave it. They end up stripped of everything important. I would say it is appropriate.

sola faleye August 31, 2008, 6:41 AM

cheating is disease.

DeeDee September 5, 2008, 8:47 PM

There is a special place in hell for cheaters…

notafool September 6, 2008, 12:49 AM

My soon to be ex husband cheated on me two weekends in a row with the same woman who he picked up in a bar…. she called me one night to ask if I was his sister and would possible have his phone# as we had the same last name and lived in the same area…. As my 2 month old daughter and 17 month old son and in fact my husband slept peacefully my insides were twister and torn to pieces… His first time with this woman he actually met her a complete stranger, went home with her, never called home, never came home and turned off his phone as I was home with our new born daughter a mere 4 days fowwing a c-section, and a toddler. To all of you who think it is ok to sleep with married people I wouldn’t wish such heart wrenching pain on ever you, as in you ignorance I do in fact pity you. But be assured, you will eventually get your do… I wouldn’t want to be him when life evens the score.

notafool September 6, 2008, 1:21 AM

One more thought (and please pardon my typos in the previous message), If these cheating men are so care free and consider themselves such lady’s men, why when found out are they reduced to a pile of spineless jelly on the floor begging for forgiveness? Don’t kid yourselves, when the truth is revealed, how would you the cheater react?

Anonymous2 September 6, 2008, 5:00 PM

I’m not going to say “all men cheat.” A lot of them do though, and then there’s men that just don’t. The difference between the two types of men can be called INTEGRITY. I think it would be safe to say that at some point in people’s relationship, the thought of what it would be like to be with someone else might cross both partners mind, but we each have the ability to control our own thoughts and actions. I don’t believe in the “it just happened” excuse either. An affair of the heart or mind probably took place way before they acted upon it. Society has accepted behavior that can eventually lead to someone stepping away from their marriage. There are women who don’t mind that their husbands watch porn, or go to strip bars. There are women that don’t see anything wrong with this kind of behavior yet wonder how in the world their husbands could cheat. In no way is it ever a woman’s fault that her husband is or has cheated, that’s not what I am saying either. I am saying that we as women, should set the standards high in our marriages. A man can be married to the most beautiful woman in the world who does everything she thinks she is suppose to do to make it work, and even that won’t guarantee his fidelity. He has to make the choice to be a man, to stand up for what is right in his marriage and honor his mate at all costs and to not engage in behaviors that lead up to stuff like cheating. Fidelity is not an emotion that people feel, it is a choice.

notafool September 6, 2008, 5:52 PM

Yes, I agree with you, it is a choice. I was quite annoyed at the idea that a wife gaining weight should somehow be a green light for a man to cheat… I wonder how this should be defined… weight gain to carry and nourish a healthy fetus during gestation… let me guess, women are supposed to return to their pre-pregnancy weight seconds after delivery, or else! I mean really, it does take a little time!

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