Is it cool to have your kids call you by your first name instead of just Mom?
As we become parents, our roles expand. Before kids, it used to just be daughter, wife, sister. Now that we're parents, we add the most loaded title of all: Mom.
With all the responsibility and joy that comes with the Mother moniker, some parents opt to have their kids call them by their first names--or, the even more common occurrence, there are those obnoxious kids who use a parent's name even after being told a million times not to. But when you think about it, it could be considered a bit odd that when we have a child we are bestowed with another name and the one we've known all our lives is no longer what we're called around the house. Our siblings don't call us Sister, even though we are one. Why do we force our kids to call us by our title instead of our name?
Pediatrician and momlogic contributor Dr. Cara Natterson says, "I think this is a very personal choice. I have known families in which the kids call their parents by their first names, and it feels very endearing."
Yet some of us fear if we let our kids refer to us in a casual way we'll undermine the entire parenting process. "Letting your kids call you by your first name isn't detrimental," says family counselor Rosanne Tobey. "I don't think it's going to ruin your parent-child relationship." Tobey does believe using titles like 'mom' and 'dad' are useful tools to establish authority. Especially as kids enter the pivotal teen years when their need to recognize adults as authority figures and not "buddies" is key.
Sometimes parents unwittingly let their toddlers refer to them on a first name basis because it's so darn cute. "It doesn't really matter when kids are little if they call you by their first name," say Tobey. "They're mimicking. It matters more when they're about 10."
Would you feel comfortable letting your kids call you by your first name, or will you always be known to your kids as mom?