Leslie from the Vuv Club responds to Happy Endings: Not Just for Men Anymore, our story about happy ending massages being on the rise: You're getting a fabulous massage. His hands are magical, your body is relaxed, your achieving a zen coma and suddenly you realize "magic hands" has his wandering fingers where no masseuse has gone before....
You are experiencing the "Dreamy Diddle," the female equivalent of the "Happy Ending," and you doth not protest.
Have you cheated?
Does the Dreamy Diddle constitute a breach of vows? Have you been unfaithful? Simply put, does the Dreamy Diddle count?
I don't think so.
It's therapeutic, part of the complete relaxation experience. "Can you work out the knot in my neck...and while you're down there, can ya'.......?" How are the two different?
You go to the gynecologist, right? And he or she doesn't even kiss you first and look at what you let them do to you.
No double standards here. I know where you're going. Would I think it's cheating if the hubby got the "happy ending?"
Well, is it habitual? Is he forming an emotional attachment to "Olga with the big forearms?" If no, I say give it a whirl (or a stroke or two in this case) and be sure to keep it to yourself so it's like "Vegas." What happens on the massage table stays there.
Leslie Adler is the founder of the Vuv Club.