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Turn your racy scenarios into reality with these simple tips.


Ever wonder how freaky your sexual thoughts really are? Well, get this: Recently researchers have pinpointed the three most common female fantasies. Sexologist Yvonne Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex, analyzes all of them, then provides tips on how to make them work for you.

Being overpowered: No, we're not talking whips and chains -- but who are we to stop you? Lots of couples get a carnal kick out of dominating each other. So try letting your guy tie your hands together with a ribbon, your bra, or  whatever's lying around. "It can be extremely thrilling to turn over your pleasure completely to another person," Fulbright says. "Your only job is to receive pleasure without guilt or responsibility, which lets you relax." Or, just tie a scarf around your eyes. With your sight blocked out, your other senses will kick into overdrive, heightening your sexual response. "Just make sure to keep communication clear by coining a code word that means 'Stop' or 'Slow down,'" Fulbright says. "That way, you'll feel safe experimenting."

Watching another couple: Sure, watching two people get down and dirty can be a major libido booster. But there are plenty of ways to indulge your voyeuristic streak without actually going there. For starters, after the kids are sound asleep, pop in a sexy flick. "These days, there are plenty of female-friendly porn films with actual plots -- and hot guys," Fulbright says. But if the thought of porn skeeves you out, you can create your own sexy scenario by making love in front of a mirror. Seeing your naked sweaty bodies will add a brand-new visual thrill to your sexual repertoire. Don't be shy to use props like wigs or costumes -- anything that makes you look different can add new eye candy. And finally, if you're feeling really bold, give yourself an audio treat by keeping a running commentary of a sexy stranger (or two) watching nearby.

Spied on by another couple: Exciting other people with your sexuality can be a huge turn-on. But you don't have to be an exhibitionist to cash in on this thrill. Just take your late-night lovemaking to the bathroom, backyard, or the backseat of your car---anywhere that ups your chances of being "caught." Or, take your libidos in public.  "Get things going by flirting with and kissing your guy over date-night dinner, then bring the action home when things really heat up," Fulbright says. The next time you're at a party, at the mall, or lunch, slip your hand in his back pocket, or whisper something naughty in his ear.

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6 comments so far | Post a comment now
Lisa July 29, 2008, 6:50 PM

We’re newlyweds, but my husband never wants to have sex with me…hopefully these tips will kick start our sex life!

Lourdes July 30, 2008, 12:22 PM

What? He doesn’t want to have sex with you! WTF! I thought it was mostly women who were the ones that would say no. When your newlyweds like youre doing it everyday! He needs to go see a therapist!

L.Ginger July 31, 2008, 10:59 AM

My man workes out of state, so we have a long distant relationship, but we make it work. We talk often and always end up having phone sex. We talk about what we want to do when he comes home. And when he finally comes home, WOW, it is so exciting!!!

aa July 31, 2008, 3:14 PM

yeah, i checked this out to see if it would actually spark a fantasy in me, but, nope… no dominating, no watching another couple (or porn, or mirrors)and DEFINATELY nor being spied on by others!!!
just plain old, we love ach other; let’s make love!

Paige August 6, 2008, 3:09 PM

He doesn’t want to make love with you??? There should be tons of reasons. What i’m sure is that you don’t really know the guy that happens to be your husband now… Open your eyes! Does he love you??? Or he just need something from you???

Kristen August 11, 2008, 4:25 PM

Racy scenarios are always FUN and can create more “reality” with your hubby being out of town if you have some special toys or other enhancers! I do Passion Parties in the Atlanta area and we emphasize communication between couples and enhancing your love life through monogamy and having FUN together again.
At any rate, communication is KEY and I hope your husband realizes that before it’s too late.

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