Turn your racy scenarios into reality with these simple tips.
Ever wonder how freaky your sexual thoughts really are? Well, get this: Recently researchers have pinpointed the three most common female fantasies. Sexologist Yvonne Fulbright, Ph.D., author of The Hot Guide to Safer Sex, analyzes all of them, then provides tips on how to make them work for you.
Being overpowered: No, we're not talking whips and chains -- but who are we to stop you? Lots of couples get a carnal kick out of dominating each other. So try letting your guy tie your hands together with a ribbon, your bra, or whatever's lying around. "It can be extremely thrilling to turn over your pleasure completely to another person," Fulbright says. "Your only job is to receive pleasure without guilt or responsibility, which lets you relax." Or, just tie a scarf around your eyes. With your sight blocked out, your other senses will kick into overdrive, heightening your sexual response. "Just make sure to keep communication clear by coining a code word that means 'Stop' or 'Slow down,'" Fulbright says. "That way, you'll feel safe experimenting."
Watching another couple: Sure, watching two people get down and dirty can be a major libido booster. But there are plenty of ways to indulge your voyeuristic streak without actually going there. For starters, after the kids are sound asleep, pop in a sexy flick. "These days, there are plenty of female-friendly porn films with actual plots -- and hot guys," Fulbright says. But if the thought of porn skeeves you out, you can create your own sexy scenario by making love in front of a mirror. Seeing your naked sweaty bodies will add a brand-new visual thrill to your sexual repertoire. Don't be shy to use props like wigs or costumes -- anything that makes you look different can add new eye candy. And finally, if you're feeling really bold, give yourself an audio treat by keeping a running commentary of a sexy stranger (or two) watching nearby.
Spied on by another couple: Exciting other people with your sexuality can be a huge turn-on. But you don't have to be an exhibitionist to cash in on this thrill. Just take your late-night lovemaking to the bathroom, backyard, or the backseat of your car---anywhere that ups your chances of being "caught." Or, take your libidos in public. "Get things going by flirting with and kissing your guy over date-night dinner, then bring the action home when things really heat up," Fulbright says. The next time you're at a party, at the mall, or lunch, slip your hand in his back pocket, or whisper something naughty in his ear.
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