Mom Divorce Survey

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Mom Divorce Survey

Wednesday, July 30, 2008


1. Are you a mom?

		Yes
		No


2. How old are you?

		18 - 24
		25 - 31
		32 - 38
		39 - 45
		46 - 55
		Over 55


3. Are you currently married?

		Yes
		No


4. How many times have you been married?

		0
		1
		2
		3
		4
		More than 5


5. How many times have you been divorced?

		0
		1
		2
		3
		4
		5 or more


6. Did you or are you waiting for your children to graduate from high school or college to get a divorce?

		Yes
		No


7. How long had you known your husband before you were married?

		Under 3 months
		3-6 months
		6 months to a year
		1-2 years
		3-4 years
		More than 4 years


8. Did you live together before marriage?

		No
		Yes, for 1-5 months
		Yes, for 6 months to a year
		Yes, for 1-3 years
		Yes, for over 3 years


9. How did you and your husband's background differ?

		Race
		Major age difference
		Class
		Education
		Religion
		No difference


10. How long did the marriage last?

		1 - 3 years
		4 - 6 years
		7 - 9 years
		10 years or more


11. What factors do you feel lead to the divorce?

		Husband had an affair
		I had an affair
		Having children
		Emotional affair
		He was too focused on career
		Lack of sex
		Just fell out of love
		Difference in background
		He came out of the closet
		I came out of the closet
		Violence
		Money problems


12. Who initiated the divorce?

		Husband did
		I did


13. How many children do you have together?

		0
		1
		2 - 3
		4 - 5
		More than 5


14. Was the divorce was more difficult than you thought it would be?

		Yes
		No
		Nobody realizes how much divorce costs you emotionally


15. What was the worst thing about getting divorced?

		Seeing your ex with another woman
		The cost of the divorce
		The way the kids reacted
		Having to move to a different house
		Not having the second income
		Getting back into the dating scene
		Feeling like a failure


16. What was best thing about divorce?

		Not fighting anymore
		Seeing your kids happier
		Finally having sex again
		Dating new people
		Feeling free


17. Knowing what you know now, would you have:

		Gotten divorced earlier
		Tried harder to stay together
		Agreed and signed a pre-nup


18. What advice would you give to others ready to get married?

		Don't do it
		Get a pre-nup
		Go for it, but go to counseling first


19. Do you feel like your husband changed during the divorce?

		Yes, he became a nightmare
		No, he stayed the same
		Yes, he became nicer to me
		Yes, he became a better dad
		No, he became an even worse dad


20. What surprised you most about your divorce?

		Children's reaction
		How much it cost you to get divorced
		How much you missed being married
		How hateful the dating scene is
		Losing mutual friends
		How fast the in-laws turned on me


21. Did you try therapy before you got divorced?

		Yes
		No


22. If so, how long did you go to therapy?

		3 months
		6 months
		1 year
		2 years


23. Did therapy help?

		No
		Yes


24. If children were involved, what type of custody arrangement was worked out?

		Shared custody
		Wife got sole custody
		Husband got sole custody
		Neither one of us have custody


25. How did the child (ren) react to the divorce?

		Relieved
		Sad
		Depressed
		Acted out
		Angry
		Indifferent


26. What type of relationship do you have with your ex-spouse now?

		We do not speak
		We speak only to talk about the child (ren)
		We are on good terms
		We are best friends


27. Have you or would you remarry?

		Yes, I am happily remarried
		No, I have not remarried, but would remarry again
		No, I am not remarried again and never will marry again


28. If you remarried, why do you believe he is any different than your first husband?

		I'm older now
		I'm more experienced
		The sex is better
		My spouse is the complete opposite of my ex
		The children are grown and out of the house


29. If you've remarried, who did you remarry?

		My ex-spouse
		The complete opposite of my ex-spouse
		A person similar to my ex-spouse


30. Should unhappy parents trapped in a loveless marriage stay together for the sake of the kids?

		Yes
		No


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Every one should have premarital counseling before marriage.

- mi

Posted 08/28/08 05:18 AM

I was so busy attending to my children’s needs throughout and after the divorce that I neglected my own needs. They are all doing really well, however, It has been 11 years and I am so used to being single that I could never adjust to being in a relationship again. I am quite happy but in the long-term, this is not a great situation for someone whose kids are moving on with their own lives. I am looking ahead to a somewhat lonely existence. My best advice for any divorcee is to wait no longer than a year to get back in the loop or you will become too comfortable being single to want to share your life again.

- Chloe

Posted 11/08/08 03:41 PM