Would you support your kid posing for Playboy?

Monica Chairez, daughter of Nevada Supreme Court candidate Don Chairez, was seen barely dressed on Playboy.com as the Coed of the Week. Much to the surprise of many, she told the Las Vegas Review Journal that her "family has always known about this and are 100% supportive of me." But we wondered what her mother really thought. Maria Chairez spoke to momlogic exclusively and said although she supports her daughter, she's also frustrated.

"We live in Las Vegas.  It probably wasn't the healthiest decision for my husband and I to bring our two daughters out here.  It was a big mistake.  It's hard to raise healthy children when you see boobs and butts on every corner. 

My daughter is 21.  She makes her own decisions and has to live with the consequences.  She told me she was thinking about doing this.  I was not in support of it and tried to talk her out of it.  I think I am like many parents--I try to talk to them and they don't listen to you.  It doesn't matter what education or social position you have, kids are going to do what they want to do.  She will suffer the consequences.  It's a frustration I feel every mom has felt.

I was out of town and just returned when someone told me on Saturday about what my daughter did.  I was shocked!"

Dealing with a daughter gone wild is one thing, but how do you deal if you're a parent in the limelight? We talked to psychologist Dr. Lisa Boesky, author of When to Worry: How to Tell if Your Teen Needs Help--and What to Do About It and public affairs consultant Kerman Maddox for guidance:

• Kids want parents to put them as number one, says Dr. Boesky. If a parent seems more interested in their own needs, kids will do what they can (including risky behavior and rebellion) to get them to pay attention to them. It's not uncommon for girls who don't feel love and attention from their fathers to try to get it elsewhere--whether from a boyfriend or lots of other men.
• Sometimes kids of prominent parents want their own identity, so they will engage in behavior that is directly opposite of their parents. If a parent is overly concerned about "appearances," some kids will do something to embarrass their prominent parents--posing provocatively in photos, getting tattoos, dying their hair purple, etc, says Dr. Boesky. Parents who catch their kids doing something naughty should not go straight to consequences, but try to find out "why." What was it their kid was after (attention, structure, rules, thrills or independence)? Is there a way the parent can give that to their kid in a healthy constructive way? A lot of times kids are screaming for their parents to give them rules.
• In addition, dad and public affairs consultant Kerman Maddox says that Monica's photos will affect daddy's chances for office. "People do judge you based on the behavior of your children, because it opens a window into the operations of the family and your operations on a personal level. For example, when Rudy Giuliani was running for president, it was widely reported that he and his daughter didn't get along; it raised questions about the family. The standards for people who run for public office are so high. If I am running for office I would not wanting my daughter posing for Playboy. I would have a hard time explaining to people that I am a good candidate and a good father if my daughter is on the pole." Watch out, Meghan McCain.

How would you react if your daughter posed for provocative photos?