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PiscesI Kissed a Girl
You would have to be dead to at least not recognize the girly tune of Katy Perry's surprisingly huge hit single "I Kissed A Girl." My 5-year-old son is at camp this summer with all mixed grades and when I started singing it in the car on the ride home today I was quickly interrupted...
"What do you mean everyone?" I asked, "Who else is singing it?"
"All the girls at school."
"Kindergarten girls are singing 'I kissed a girl and I liked it?'"
"No, Mom, duh, the fifth graders!"
Oh dear. Are scads of pre-pubescent girls going to start making out all over the country and then grow up to be lesbians because of this song? Would this be a bad thing? I turned to Shannon Fox, (momlogic's very own marriage and family therapist) for some professional insight into the song's influence and whether we should be talking to our kids about it.
"Any discussion of sexuality must take into consideration the age of your daughter. Factor in your daughter's age and maturity level. Use the song as a conversation starter. Ask her lots of questions instead of lecturing her about your opinions. You might be surprised to discover that she knows girls who have already experimented with homosexuality. Unless she is home-schooled and you don't have a television or Internet, your daughter has been exposed to homosexuality from all forms of education and the media for years. This song is an opportunity to discuss her values, morals, and beliefs. Talk to her about how she should never try anything sexual out of obligation or peer pressure. Don't steer clear of sharing your own views and religious beliefs and values. It's important for your children to hear you talk clearly and comfortably about your own thoughts and feelings. Your frank discussion models open communication for them. Make sure that you focus on listening to her, too--let her know that you value her thoughts and welcome her questions."
Sounds like we should be thanking Perry for this ubiquitous "lesbian lite" song since it's a great opportunity to have a healthy dialogue with our daughters about sex. Fortunately, I have two sons (5 and 1) so I'm off the hook for a few years. Good luck!
Dani Klein Modisett is the mom of two boys, and the creator/producer of Afterbirth...Stories You Won't Read in Parents Magazine.
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LOL…Sorry but that is funny. I love the song because I am Bi. And yes I know its wrong to be with the same sex but for girls that been sexual abuse feel safer with girls. You can’t tell our girls that if they like girls you would hate them. When I was pre teen Thats when I know that I like girls and boys. But my mom just yelling at the tv because there was gay people on there telling them to die. And yes I wanted to kill myself but I got enough gut to tell my mother what kind of feelin I have for girls. She was shock but she got over it. I think this song is for those who don’t know what they are feeling right now. So just let it go.
I love this song!
Her music is very catchy, and definitely a guilty pleasure! :)
ps: Amber -
who said it’s wrong to be with the same sex?! are you Christian?
and what your mom did is horrible.
If a song made us who we are, we would all be crazier than hell. I have a degree in music industry communications. I “earned” a performing art scholarship for bass guitar after i was in college. if a song makes us, then so would a t.v. show, if this is true, i would have been Bugs Bunny a long time ago.
When my husband heard this song on the radio he started to laugh, and said oh my. My eleven year old daughter was in the back seat and started to sing it. She already knew it by heart, and who sings it. She wanted to know why a girl was singing a song about a boy kissing a girl. once we explained it she was like “YUCK. Why would a girl want to kiss another girl.” I think as long as it is explained to these young girls it is just a song it’s ok. They like the beat and music of the song, which is why it is so popular. I don’t think it is going to make them start kissing girls. Alot of the boys in her school think it is funny. MOre boys are sining it than girls.