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Is Your Husband Your BFF?

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Do you tell your guy absolutely everything? And is this a bad thing?


We hear it all the time: "My husband is my best friend." But what does this really mean? There's no doubt you can tell your man anything ... but should you ever spare him the girl-version? Take this mini-quiz to see if you consider your guy your hubby or best friend--and can he ever be both?

• You buy a killer blouse and can't wait to show it off. You:
a) Mention "Bloomingdale's had a sale today."
b) Ask if he likes the blouse.
c) Put a fashion show for him, trying it on with different outfits.

• You just heard a juicy celebrity scandal. You say to your husband:
a) Nothing. He wouldn't be interested.
b) "I heard so-and-so cheated on his wife."
c) The rumor (word for word), followed by a lengthy comparison between the women involved and who is prettier.

• You get busted checking out a hot guy on the street. You say:
a) "Cute guy...? Where?"
b) "He looks familiar--didn't we met him at your company party?"
c) "Wow, he could model!"

You answered mostly As: The good news is, you're pretty considerate of your man's feelings, which makes you a great friend. But by opening up more, you'll improve communication between the two of you. For starters, according to recent studies, men (gasp) like gossiping, and doing so is a way for people to bond and connect over shared values. So give your guy some credit and start dishing more. Also: Consider asking his opinion on subjects that matter to you. You'll give his ego a boost when you show you want his P.O.V. and you'll bond in the meantime.

You answered mostly Bs: You strike a great balance between being a partner and a best friend to your guy. However, thanks to all that testosterone which drives guys to problem-solve, men are more goal-oriented in their speech, whereas woman often talk to make a connection. So if you, say, complain to him about your witch of boss, he may think you'd like him to fix things, rather than just air your grievances. The next time you want him to lend an ear without being Mr. Fix-It, say something like, 'I had a rough day. Mind if I just vent?' That way, he'll know what to do, and you'll be satisfied.

You answered mostly Cs: It's great that you're so open with your man, but you could use a little nudge to spare him the details where it counts. While studies show women don't actually talk more than women, the choice in topics is really what divides the sexes. According to experts, men tend to discuss things and facts, whereas women talk more about people, relationships, and feelings. That's not to say you can't have a happy medium--just consider occasionally sparing him the unfiltered version and save the fun part for your girlfriends.

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6 comments so far | Post a comment now
zerohelp August 26, 2008, 1:16 PM

i got 2 bs and a c so I guess that means Im good to go. haha

foxymama August 26, 2008, 1:27 PM

yeah sure - i need to be friends with my man, he should be one of my best buddies. but for me - i need gal pals too. they help we get through all of my husband issues!!!!!

Cordy August 27, 2008, 12:45 PM

i agree to i want me andmy man to the best of friends, i want to be only to talk to my man about anything, i need to be able to make my man life to live a fairytalk happy life with my man.

Anonymous August 27, 2008, 1:43 PM

all ‘Cs’…….. we are so open… he loves it when i see some guy in tight jeans…… or bike shorts..!!

Carol August 28, 2008, 9:26 AM

If your husband is not your BFF your marraige will never last. Marraige is ups and downs. Trust, responsibility, and love unconditional will take you all the way. Ask your self could you be with anyone else you know day in and day out. Probly not always remember it is a life time commitment.

Anonymous August 28, 2008, 11:09 AM

I got all C’s LOL. We have been married 25 years and have always been very open. Nothing I can’t say to him.

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