When I first heard that Kate Hudson and Lance Armstrong had split, I threw my hands into the air. There they go again: parading each other's kids through their lives, and leaving someone else to clean up the streamers. Did they even try to have a relationship? Or, was it just about the weekend sex in hotels across the country?
But then I realized how judgmental that sounded. No one really knows what happened behind the scenes.
And Lance? There were a few harsh insults thrown out, but compared to Kate, hardly an eyelash was batted. There goes that double standard again -- but never mind.
The truth is, no one really knows exactly how much their kids were involved. Yes, Kate's 4-year-old son, Ryder, was at a Father's Day brunch with Lance -- and his own dad. Yes, Kate entertained son Ryder and Lance's three kids -- 8-year-old Luke, and 6-year-old twin girls Grace and Isabelle -- while Lance prepped for a recent race event.
Yes, Kate and Lance were clearly doing their share of PDA.
But were they ever smooching in front of the kids? They were dating long-distance. Most likely, they were having weekend-hot-and-heavy-hotel rendezvous, without the kids.
So, what gives? Single parents deserve the chance to love again, too, don't they?
Moreover, children of single parents need to grow up with a healthy attitude about adults, dating, and having friends of both sexes. Being secretive and sneaking is what can be really damaging.
This isn't about planning sleepovers when your kids are there. It's about communicating openly and honestly with your children. It's about being willing to answer their questions. Look at the new TLC show Must Love Kids. This first-ever reality dating TV show for single parents is a genuine look at what it means to move on.
Don't get me wrong. I think the fact that the kids on this show meet Mommy's "special friend" on her third date is too fast. But is it wrong? Not necessarily.
Single parents are grown-ups. They can set ground rules -- no PDA, but they can bring their kids to a family gathering, for example.
If you're real, respectful, and honest with your kids, it's not going to ruin them.
Do you think single moms should introduce their dates to their children?