Guest blogger Elizabeth Kuster: Here's the scenario... it's parent-teacher night, and you can't help but notice that a certain divorced dad has been giving you the glad eye. Damn, he's cute, you think. But is he off-limits? A relationship expert answers that crucial question.
Is that cute divorced dad at your kid's school off-limits? Dr. Jane Greer, a marriage and family therapist in New York City and host of the radio show Doctor On Call, answers the question that's so crucial to single moms.
And the answer is (drumroll, please): "It is absolutely, unequivocally okay to date a single dad at your child's school," says Jane Greer. [Woo hoo!] "The truth of the matter is, when it comes to dating, it's slim pickings out there! The pool just isn't that large, and if you're a single mom, where else are you going to meet men? Besides, you want to date guys you have a common denominator with, right? Well, having kids that go to the same school and are around the same age is a huge thing to have in common. Divorced dads come with built-in practicalities and conveniences, too--such as not having to hire a babysitter whenever you want to see each other."
A few caveats:
• Postpone intimacy. "Bringing the divorced dad home with you and/or having sex with him right away is inappropriate and will make things awkward for everyone," Greer says. "Take it slow: Be friends first."
• Be clear with the kids. "Make sure they understand that the two of you are just getting to know each other," Greer advises.
• Don't be frivolous. "If you're flip about dating him--like, you stand him up sometimes or don't call him back or whatever--that will create a very negative ripple effect. When you date someone in the same circle--as is the case if his child goes to your child's school--your best dating manners must be in place. Be considerate!"
Would you go for the divorced dad? Do tell...