Size 12, You're Fat!

Friday, August 8, 2008

filed under: health logic

Guest blogger MILF Mommy thinks you're fat.

I am sick and tired of hearing that it's OK to be a size 12. I understand that this is the average weight of women in the United States, but since when does average make everything OK? Here's some low-cal food for thought...

1. You're not as cute as you could be. Being a size 12 is neither healthy nor is it attractive. Ask any man (in private) if he'd prefer that his size 12 wife lose weight and he'd say, "YES!"

2. You're lying about feeling good. Any woman who says she'd rather be a size 12 than a size 6 is lying. Think about it. Have you ever met someone who has lost weight who regrets it? Does anyone ever say, "I hate how I look in this sexy dress with my toned arms"? Or, "I preferred it when I had a muffin top belly and huge thighs"?

3. Stop pretending you are on a diet. I'm also sick of these size 12 women pretending that they do everything possible, but just can't lose the weight. That's impossible. If you really exercised 45 minutes a day, 5 days a week and ate the recommended 1800 calories a day, you wouldn't be a size 12. So stop pretending. And FYI -- it defeats the purpose if you eat salads for every meal that are covered in bacon and blue cheese dressing.

4. Thin people aren't lucky -- they work harder than you. I work very hard to be a size 4. It's difficult, but I always find the time to work out. I also make many food sacrifices. I would love to eat baked ziti for lunch and get dessert after every meal. I'd also be thrilled to drink a beer! But, sometimes in life you have to give things up in order to gain something bigger.

5. Stop using genes as a crutch. I get it. Sometimes it's harder for people to eat well and exercise than it is for others--being heavy may run in your family, you may have had an issue way back when. The same goes for people who do drugs, but it doesn't make it OK that they are addicts.

This may sound harsh, but you are doing a disservice to our children. I don't want my daughters under the delusion that life will be easy as a chunky person. It's harder to get work, find a husband and even walk up stairs. It's also a good way to decrease your life expectancy. It seems to be taboo to discuss this epidemic too loudly, but I think it's time we start.

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Oh wait … I’d probably have to give a crap what other people thought of my appearance in order for any of this to matter to me, wouldn’t I … and, well, since I don’t - sorry you wasted your time with this little rant of yours!

- April

Posted 08/15/08 03:06 PM

I’m more concerned about blood pressure and cholesterol than I am about weight. How about that discussion?

- Carol

Posted 08/15/08 03:40 PM

What a sad post! How disappointing.

- So Sad

Posted 08/15/08 08:47 PM

You’re a size 4? Oh wait - was I supposed to care? Um, congratulations, I guess???

- Shirlene

Posted 08/16/08 12:17 PM

this is utterly sad. I hope nobody will buy into this.

- Chris (a MAN)

Posted 08/16/08 01:41 PM

This is a joke, right? We are women, we don’t have to be thin or buff to be worth something. We might like weighing less, but our worth is NOT our weight. It is no more wrong to judge someone by their weight, than their skin color. WHAT ARE WE THINKING? Is there virtue in a women’s SIZE or in her CHARACTER? Please let’s stop and think and dialogue. Can we teach our children to BE authentic, doing their best, care for themselves and others? Can’t we teach them to be with a partner who loves us no matter our size. Who loves us for who we are? I got married in a size 14 dress. I had just had hernia surgery, and had swelling. Five years, and lots of loving and loss later, I am now a six or a four or an eight, who knows the truth, sizes lie. But my husband loves ME, not just my body. He says I am the best person he knows, and he knows the good and the bad. He loves my wit, my soul, my misguided kindness. I sleep too little, don’t always work out, try to eat right, and get too stressed out. But we focus on loving each other and others. My body HOUSES my soul. I try and do the best I can for it, because I need a place for my soul to live. I am not an OBJECT, I am a person. I am vainer than I wish I was, but less than I could be….. What has become of ALL of us? Will we overcome it? We must for our children….

- Deb

Posted 08/16/08 05:05 PM

OMG…What a weirdo. She calls herself a M.I.L.F. which is disturbing in its own right. I am glad this woman allows the rest of the human race to walk the same ground she does.

- Anonymous

Posted 08/17/08 11:51 AM

iam a size 12 and i exercive daily but iam not trying to eat health i just stay in shape, but i dont eat just anything either

- paloma

Posted 08/18/08 03:52 PM

That’s cool how MILF mommy’s brain is size 4, also!

- trouble

Posted 08/18/08 05:15 PM

“MILF” Mommy: First of all, your screen name says it all—I guess you are still deluding yourself into thinking that men find you sexually attractive. News Flash: You’re not 22 anymore & there is no way in hell that any man would pick you over a single, young woman with no children. You are sadly, pathetically overestimating yourself, sweetie. Secondly, not all men are sexually attracted to bony-assed women! Thank God that men can actually have varying tastes when it comes to women. Not all men are white Protestants, either—perhaps there are other cultures and tastes besides your own pathetic one? I’m sooooo glad that you are so in love with yourself, though—you sound pretty pathetic and small—so it would probably hurt too much to realize that there is so much more to life than your body size. I actually feel sorry for you and your daughters—you are teaching them how shallow and pathetic our culture can be. I choose to teach my children about the important things in life—the love and sacrifice of family, God, and helping other people. Those are my values—you are more than welcome to your selfish, shallow and vapid values you wrote your article about. So sad!

- Lara

Posted 08/18/08 06:39 PM

I am sorry but I am 5’11” and a size 12 and no where close to being fat so you really need to step back and think about the stupid things you are saying…. a five foot women at this size may be hefty but I have looks that kill and I walk into the room and nearly every man gives me attention.

- Tina

Posted 08/20/08 12:32 PM

At some point, clothing size starts to become irrelevant. Having recently officially overcome bulimia (I am in my early 40s and had it since my teens), how I see things so differently! It is your confidence and attitude about yourself that makes you sexy and attractive to men (not your clothing size). While it is true that the majority of men are not attracted to overweight or obese women, there are still quite a few who do like a full (or very full) figure. When we are younger, usually because of the media or critical people in our lives, clothing size is very important. Being skinny (or super skinny) means we are in control and more desirable (or so we think). For years I tortured myself by exercising, starving myself, or vomiting (when I actually ate a regular meal) to have that “perfect” figure. Funny thing… as I got older, it became harder and harder to maintain that size 2, then that size 4, then that size 6, and even a 8. You see, I ruined my metabolism by depriving my body of much-needed calories, all for the sake of looking like the MILF poster. When I finally started embracing my figure and loving my body for what it could do, I realized that being a size 12 isn’t bad. I actually get more attention from men now that I accept my body and myself. And after several months of taking care of myself, exercising and eating healthy, I am even a size 10. To maintain my optimal health, I will probably never get below a size 8. At my age and height (5’ 6”), and bone structure it is just not realistic. Another funny thing… People tell me I look better now than I ever have (no, I am no beauty queen, but not bad for 42!). Men flirt, and both sexes think I’m in my early-mid thirties. When I was skinny, while my body looked better in pictures, I just did not look healthy. My face looked drawn. What is sexy about that? True, men found me attractive. But that might have been the fact that I still had large breasts, even when thin. Women, I give you all credit to have the intelligence to know that you don’t have to work hard to be attractive and sexy. You just have to eat in moderation (but not constantly

- Sharon

Posted 08/20/08 07:04 PM

Here’s where MILF needs to educate herself: 1. You’re not as cute as you could be. If you are naturally tiny, maybe you are as cute as you could be. If your face and body look bony and emaciated at a size 4, you would look MUCH cuter at a heavier weight. Not everyone thinks bony, hard and tiny is cute. Many men love soft and womanly. Some toning is always a plus, put PUHLEEZ! 2. You’re lying about feeling good. I used to be thin enough to suit your biased view. I felt like crap. My body was screaming to be fed and given a break. I am healthy and weight 160 lbs. I feel better than I have ever felt, because believe it or not, I DO exercise and usually eat healthy foods, always in moderation. People are amazed at my energy level. And I just might beat you in a marathon, MILF. I wake up with a bounce in my step (and size 10 body!) 3. Stop pretending you are on a diet. Um, how arrogant. Scientific research has proven that MANY “overweight” people actually eat less than many thin people, including you! There are many things that aren’t working as optimally in people’s bodies; things they aren’t even aware of: blood sugar levels, thyroid, high cortisol levels, sluggish metabolism due to abuse, horrible chemicals in foods that cause cravings, etc. The list goes on. Yes, many people eat too much and don’t exercise, but don’t insult larger women who actually do take care of ourselves, possibly even better than you do. 4. Thin people aren’t lucky — they work harder than you. Yes, and sometimes they work unnecessarily too hard. You can actually hurt yourself long-term by depriving yourself of calories. And, I repeat again, I know many people you would consider FAT, who could beat you hands down on the treadmill, weight room, or in a 10K. Heavier women are often stronger. To say that size 12 women don’t work as hard as you shows much ignorance. 5. Stop using genes as a crutch. There really are people who can never be a size 4, at least not without practically killing themselves. Is this using genes as a crutch? Hmmm. What do you think? Not everyone can be super tiny. And not everyone wants to be. There are more important things in life such as

- slp

Posted 08/20/08 07:57 PM

It’s the number way of thinking that hurts girls’ self esteem. I was made fun of in high school because I wore a size 10 - I was buff and in shape, but the size 2 girls were considered normal. I now know that a size 10 is at my healthy weight, I am large boned. Looking back at my photos from high school, I no longer see a fat girl, but a girl whose self esteem was harmed for no good reason.

- kendra

Posted 08/21/08 12:31 AM

Hi, I’m currently researching various weight loss programs and courses. So, if you don’t mind please answer in this topic: What’s your single most important question about weight loss? Cheers, JD

- jdpolson

Posted 08/21/08 08:38 AM

I am a size six and it is the right size for me. I know someone where size 12 is too small for them; they should a 14 or 16. Everyone has their own right size. A size twelve can be healthy. I think it is a shame that this was sent out. It is just mean and not informed or based on any fact.

- danielle

Posted 08/21/08 05:41 PM

I’m a size 2/4, and it’s a healthy weight for me, but it certainly wouldn’t be for everyone. I’m 5’2” and very small-boned, but I’m still very fit and work out 3-4 times a week. Being petite doesn’t mean being boney, any more than being a size 12 means being fat. There are many different body types out there and everyone should just feel comfortable in their own skin. Yes, it’s important to exercise and eat right, but not to starve yourself just to fit into some ridiculous Hollywood mold of what a woman should look like. It’s all about moderation. I eat and drink what I want, just in small amounts. I think MILF Mom needs to have a few beers, some cheesecake, and chill!

- Dana

Posted 08/21/08 07:00 PM

Really she is totally setting her children up for an eating disorder. It is a-okay to teach your kids that a strong healthy body is something to strive for……..but a size 4? Come on. Eat right, exercise and have that occasional goodie once in a while is a healthy attitude. Being obssessed (sp?) is not. Kids are smart they pick right up on it. She could really benefit from some counseling.

- kaday

Posted 08/22/08 08:00 AM

While the wording was a bit harsh, I agree with MILF for the most part. Just because you are taller does not mean that you can wear bigger sizes and “look fine”. A size 12 is overweight, period. There is so much obesity in America today, go visit European countries, you will not see nearly as many overweight people as you do in the states. People need to educate themselves on portion control and nutrition. Yeah that 12oz ribeye looks good but in reality that is two to three servings. 3oz of chicken breast is one serving. How many pieces do you eat when you roll up to the drive through at KFC? The average sized chicken breast is 6oz. Americans are overeating and don’t realize it. Then there is the big hype over self image and we don’t want our girls having eating disorders… well how about teaching them how to eat healthy, control portion size and exercise? Anorexia and Bulimia are the fault of the parents. You should be paying more attention to your children and communicating with them.

- Jennifer

Posted 08/23/08 09:58 AM

You’re so vain. A lot of women ARE comfortable in their own skin and that’s really all that matters. Not everyone can be Miss Olympia like yourself. It does take a lot of hard work and dedication to stay fit, but a size 4??? Come on! That’s TOO skinny for anyone!!! That’s not even HEALTHY! You probably have a thousand men and/or women, yet still feel lonely and empty inside. You too will find happiness within and can be happy like the rest of these size 12 women are. (How can you even put a label on a certain size when height and weight must be considered? You’re very ignorant.)

- Angela

Posted 08/23/08 12:11 PM