Does Divorce Scar Kids for Life?

 

I can remember WISHING my parents would get a divorce. I hated their fighting. 46 years later they are still fighting and still married, but I don’t have to live there.

- red

Posted 08/22/08 07:18 PM

 

 

my parents divorced when I was three. I only remember one fight that stood out in any way. it was about me, too. shortly after that they were planning the divorce and I thought it was my fault. then again, what kid doesn’t? I missed having a dad around. my mom re-married when I was 8.5 but it wasn’t the same. he wasn’t my dad.

- a.

Posted 08/22/08 08:07 PM

 

 

I was kind of young at the time and my parents didin’t tell me the whole story behind it for the reason that they did not want to put me in the middle, in the end they still were very hostile towards each other. To be honest I blame both my parents for the divorce, both of them have difficult personalities to live with. all in all though, I actually think the divorce was a good thing because now I have a very strong instinct with men and I am amazing at picking out jerks with only a few conversations. All the men who get my my radars are really nice guys and I get along with great.

- Anna

Posted 08/23/08 01:21 AM

 

 

I am a child of divorce, I was very young when my parents divorced and I didn’t think it affected me until I later was ready to go through a divorce. I had stayed in my marriage because I thought that’s the way that relationships worked, I never believed in ‘true love’ and ‘happily ever after’ because I had never experienced that. I got divorced when I finally realized that my children were learning the exact same thing that I had thought all of my life. I took a hard look around and I saw that there were people were out there who had that ‘happily ever after’ marriage and ‘true love’…I didn’t kow if I’d find it, but I wanted my kids to know that what their dad and I had was not what it was supposed to be… I have come to learn that my ex and I did it the right way, if there is such a thing…we do not bad mouth each other, we talk daily, we share custody and we are good friends. We approach dicipline the same, we approach parties together, we go to school functions together. I did find my true love and I know realize it’s out there and I hope that my children learn from my husband and I’s relationship the way it is supposed to be… I will say the biggest thing is that, while we were going through our divorce, my ex husband and I talked freely with our children. We were honest with them and answered all of their questions. We also talked freely with each other in front of them…we didn’t have a messy divorce so we didn’t really have a lot to talk about that in front of them, but we talked about the kids’ day, how his work was going how our new apartment was, etc…we let them know that we were still their parents-together. I also let my kids see me cry…they needed to know that it was a sad time and that it was perfectly ok for them to be sad about it…even though we probably had the easiest divorce in history, it was sad and confusing and we needed to validate our kids’ feelings… Will my kids be confused and affected by the divorce…you bet, they are going to be affected by every decision I make…I just hope and we all work

- Sandi

Posted 08/25/08 11:46 AM

 

 

I just want to comment on divorce parnets. My step kids still blame their father for the divorce when the mother had the affair.

- patti

Posted 08/25/08 01:41 PM

 

 

LOOK! I’M A TEN YEAR OLD GIRL, MY PARENTS WERE DIVORCED SINCE I WAS ONE AND A HALF, NO TEARS! NO REGRETS! NO DRAMA! OK? I LOVE MY STEP MOM AND MY STEP PARENTS AS MUCH AS MY REAL PARENTS ALMOST, NO BIGGIE!!

- Erika

Posted 08/30/08 11:52 PM

 

 

well, i’ve been married for 7 yrs on sept. 20th, and i’m thinking strongly on a divorce. we have 3 beatiful boys, 5-6-and 8. iknow they need a father figure in their lives, but he don’t pay them any attention, he always focus on me and all the things that he proclaim that i am doing wrong in the household. he is military, and barely here, so he really don’t know what’s going on here, but yet he trys to hadle things from afar when i am well able to handle them here. he argues with me and over the smallest things like he wants to patch the roof where it is leaking, but i say we should wait until the hurricane hanna comes, then get the whole roof done incase it is more extensive than we think, and he has the money to do it. also, i never know how much money he is going to give me a month, so i can’t plan to do thing for the kids, like buy them new shoes, or take them somewhere for entertainment. my kids, and i are suffering in this relationship. so if anyone have a better suggestion, please email me and let me know.

- latosha

Posted 09/02/08 12:40 PM

 

 

Divorce does not impact kids unless the parents allow it to.

- Blue

Posted 09/08/08 10:16 AM

 

 

I am 27 years old. My parents divorced when I was 8. I have never been able to cope with their divorce more so that I am older and see some of the affects that it has had on me later in life. The one thing that I have learned is that marriage is sacred and people should not take part in marriage if they can’t stand by their own vows…

- Sarah

Posted 03/23/09 06:16 PM