In the wake of the John Edwards affair, more and more people are talking about divorce and whether it's better to stay together for the kids. We got to the bottom of it-- surveying over 500 divorced parents, as well as children of divorce, to find out its true impact on parents and children.
In part one of our two-part series, we reveal the results of our divorced parents survey. PLUS, three moms give us a personal, inside look into the breakups of their marriages.
Here, our findings:
- Stay together for kids? How the split will affect the kids is obviously something parents think about before deciding to go their separate ways. But 78% of parents who are divorced say parents shouldn't stay together for the sake of the children.
- What would they change if they did it all over again? 61% of parents say they'd have gotten divorced earlier if they knew then what they know now. Just 30% say they wish they'd tried harder to stay together.
- What causes divorce in the first place? 41% of divorcees say money problems or a cheating spouse led to their split.
- What's the worst part about it? Surprise -- it's not how the kids reacted. 36% of divorcees say the worst part of divorce is feeling like a failure. Just 23% say the worst part of divorce was how the children handled the split.
- The biggest eye-opener from the split? Certain things definitely surprised our respondents about divorce. 42% said they were most shocked by how quickly their in-laws turned on them or how much the divorce cost them (21%). For some, absence made the heart grow fonder: 18% said they were most shocked by how much they missed being married. Just 14% said that their kids' reactions surprised them most.