Ugh is the word that comes to mind. I went through menopause, lost all my hormones (but at least I didn’t gain a beard and mustache, but maybe that’s waiting down the pike) and all desire for sex. It’s still in my subconscious somewhere because occasionally I dream about it. Along with menopause comes vaginal dryness and absolutely painful sex. It feels like someone is scrubbing your insides with sandpaper. There is no amount of lubrication on the market that takes that feeling away.

So not only don’t you want to, it hurts like hell as well. The only thing you can hope for is around about that time, his prostate is swelling and he doesn’t so much want to either. Occasionally he reaches for me, I grit my teeth in the pain and get through it. The one benefit, I don’t feel completely repulsive. The thought of getting hormone treatment so I can feel horny again but risk breast cancer instead, doesn’t appeal to me. But I guess it could be worse, I could feel horny, want it, and it could be just as painful. At least I don’t want it and can avoid the pain.

What a rotten joke nature plays. Just when you can’t possibly get pregnant and can finally let loose any time you want without worrying about diaphragms, pills, and creams, and you have a regular partner next to you in bed, and you don’t want to play anymore.

But man o’ man, I really liked it before. I was never too tired. I want to know the secret of those post-menopausal horny women. How do you do it?

Why are there so many bitter men?

Men are bloody LUCKY. You guys don’t have to shoot a live being out of your private parts, which makes you think of them in an ENTIRELY different way btw, you don’t have blood and tissue exiting your private parts once a month for several days, and you don’t have to deal with the ups and downs of cyclical hormones.

Women respond to MENTAL stimulation. Men respond to visual and physical stimulation. Women can physiologically be stimulated by intercourse, but if the mind isn’t engaged sexually, it’s just not going to happen. Men could be on fire and still orgasm. This is, of course, a generalization. There are individual cases, but the trend is there.

There’s a difference between saying “Hey babe, you wanna do it?” and “You are so hot, I want to do bad things to you”. Ask any woman, and she will tell you that the second one is far more likely to turn her on and get her in the mood than the first. If you make it about how you’re overwhelmingly attracted to your partner, she’ll definitely be more receptive than if it feels like you’re just using her to fulfill your biological imperative.

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