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Those of us who are married and have sex with people who are not our spouses are usually referred to as cheaters or adulterers...just like people who steal are thieves. If I like to steal a lot, uncontrollably even, am I a theft addict? Should this be a criminal defense strategy? Rehab for theft addiction instead of jail?

Tell me, why does this condition only affect men? Geraldo Rivera, Charlie Sheen and now Tea Leoni's man, David Duchovny. Can you name a female sex addict? Or are they just sluts? How is it that professionals are helping men validate their love of sex with a "condition?" Will employers have to accommodate this condition? Say... give a sex addict an extra hour for lunch to maybe bang a co-worker? Perhaps Mr. Duchovny can speak before.

Congress on the issue. I'm sure many a Congressman would be interested in the subject matter. In the meantime, I am going to begin my research to find the cure for sexaholism. I am even going to rally my friends to "Stand Up For The Cure" so all men can "Beat It" pun intended.

Leslie Adler is the founder of The Vuv Club.

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Katey September 2, 2008, 2:39 PM

I believe if you’re a “theft addict,” it’s called Kleptomania…

but otherwise, I see your point! Sometimes, it seems society would rather create “conditions” and “syndromes” than deal with the core, relevant issues.

Shaun September 2, 2008, 3:40 PM

Your whole article is based on the assumption that having sex, or too much of it and with other women, is his issue. It is not. His issue is surfing the net and frequenting porn sites, chat rooms to be exact. This is NOT normal behavior between married people.

Plus, you’re a bitch!

Beth September 2, 2008, 3:42 PM

Yep, I agree with all that you said and more. I just found out my husband of thirty-five years is a sex addict, has been all through our marriage. I on the other hand, did not know he had this illness.To me, and it always will be that he chose to do this act or acts over and over again. If he had not got caught, his funeral would have been one to remember in the books. All said, I will never forget or forgive him for his deceit.

Anonymous September 2, 2008, 3:47 PM

The cure for sexaholism exists in the hormones of married women. They never seem to want to have sex. Women may not suffer from sexaholism, but why is it that not paying attention to something your husband said can fall under the condition “momnesia”?

Kate September 2, 2008, 4:50 PM

I believe that people can be addicted to sex. Sometimes they seek to fulfill their addiction through porn and sometimes through human contact. My father is a sex addict, and he and my mom went to counseling. They have been able to overcome it by using an internet filter to prevent temptation. It’s sad that my father has this problem, but I’m proud of him for doing something about it. And I’m proud of my mom for being patient and sticking with her man through it. I hope that Tea and David are able to help one another through this difficult addiction, and I hope that the public realizes how incredibly personal and delicate this situation is.

Morning September 2, 2008, 5:48 PM

I’m not sure why you are so annoyed? Seems like David is trying to deal with his issues and knew they would become public anyway. As for the terminology of “sex addiction” you can call it what you want but what a relief that someone can find a place that will help them with their problems.

Anonymous September 2, 2008, 6:51 PM

Yes, please start during your research and become more educated on sexual addiction. While you are researching please look up the terms “objectification” and “sexual anorexia” as well.

k September 2, 2008, 10:04 PM

Perhaps you should do a bit of research before you start in on David. Yes, believe it or not, there is such a thing as a “sex addict”. You may not want to believe it, but it’s true. Just like any other addict, the brain creates new neural pathways and the body craves the sex, just like a junkie craves a hit or a smoker craves a ciggy. And they need compassion and help just like any other recovering addict.

Yes, most adults do have sex. Most adults also eat. Do you believe in a food addiction? Most people don’t, but it exists. Yet, had he come out and said he was seeking help for drug addiction, people would rally to his side. Oh, and btw, yes there are female sex addicts. They just get different kinds of press.

The key is for the recovering addict to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for their behavior, just like any other addict has to, and do the best they can (through programs and rehab and other tools given to them) to not repeat that behavior. Just like any other addict.

Really, when you post stories like this, you not only undermine the steps taken forward by people who do deal with this problem, but you just make yourself look ignorant. Try doing some research before you posts these sorts of stories, it makes it that much more enjoyable for the reader.

Surfer September 2, 2008, 11:19 PM

Well could it be that he just beat off too much to porn - and not necessarily had sex with someone else. Now - not every person who occaisonally looks at porn or “self-gratifies” is a sex addict. I am surprised that some on this board condemn a man for doing that.

Now if it is to such a degree that it interferes with the relationship and the sex life between husband and wife - then its an issue or if it becomes a habit gotten out of control.

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