Guest blogger Dani Klein Modisett: I know I should, all the magazines tell me I should, and the moms who seem to have a "yoga pants only" wardrobe tell me I should, but since I've had my second child, I find myself surprisingly okay with looking...like a woman who's had two children.
"So that's what I look like now," I think, seeing a woman with full arms and huge breasts. The stripper boobs are understandable, given the fact that I am still nursing my baby, but the rest of my "plumpness" is a little surprising. I don't weigh myself and haven't since my 20s when I danced closely with an eating disorder. All I really have to go on about the size of my body is how my clothes fit and various windows and mirrors. There are definitely some skirts (mini) and some jackets (also short) which I will never close again. I might even be bold and throw them out.
Interestingly, if I looked like this a few years ago, I'm not sure I would have left the house. Yes, I tend to be a little obsessive and a lot vain. I also live in Southern California, which doesn't help. But if you live anywhere in this country and go to the checkout in a supermarket or turn on the television, shame for not being a skinny woman is yours for the taking.
I am proud to say that I have not done "The Master Cleanse," the Grapefruit Diet, Dr. Atkins, the Zone, Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, the Hot Dog and Hard-Boiled Egg diet, or any of the other suggestions I have been given since having my second child. I work out hard enough to keep my endorphins high and skirted post-partum depression. I feel healthy and strong and good enough about myself to flirt, which is a lot better than being a hungry, bitchy size 2. Been there, done that.
|Dani Klein Modisett is the mother of 1-year-old Gideon (pictured) and 5-year-old Gabriel. She is comedy writer/creator/producer of the show "Afterbirth...stories you won't read in Parents magazine." An anthology of stories from this show will be published by St. Martin's Press, in stores in May 2009.|