Kate is Great, It's Jon I Hate

Kate is Great, It's Jon I Hate

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Message for those critics of Kate from "Jon and Kate Plus Eight:" You're sexist.

I just finished reading the posts Why I Hate Jon & Kate and Reality TV Mom: Abusive?. I am appalled by the amount of backlash being handed down about "Jon and Kate Plus Eight," the reality show following the chaotic lives of Jon and Kate Gosselin, parents of twins and sextuplets. I am particularly shocked by the anger spewed toward Kate. Kate, competent and organized, is portrayed on the show as a callous, irrational bully. Which is exactly how sexist American viewers like it: capable women are shrews beating down good-hearted men.

She's got eight kids for God's sake! That's the limit that some of us will allow our kids to invite to their birthday parties. And, heck, she has more to deal with than just kids. She's also got her bumbling husband. (One wonders how the two ever got together ... but that's another story.)

In one interview Jon tells the story of when he first met Kate:

"I was doing nothing myself. No career -- I didn't have any goals, didn't want to get married didn't want to have kids just bumming around. I was living with my mother."

Seriously, with his Mommy? TLC should change the name of "Jon and Kate Plus Eight" to "Kate Plus Nine" -- the ninth kid is Jon.

Often, the parenting choices this man-child makes are so misguided, I would defy any mom to keep their cool under the circumstances. Case in point: In a past episode, John is going on a bike ride with five of the eight kids. They're in their helmets and ready to leave from the driveway --- then suddenly Jon takes off WITHOUT THEM. Cut to Kate, who -- concerned for her toddlers' safety -- screams after Jon to wait for the kids. Gee, what a b*tch.

Come on moms, do you think if the cameras were rolling at your house, you wouldn't react the same? Or would you just smile and walk back into the house as your kids rode directly into oncoming traffic?

Kate, like any women who takes charge, gets a bad rap. Yeah, she's harsh at times, but at least she gets the job done. Which is more than you can say for her dumbass husband.

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I just really don’t understand why anyone would dislike either one of them. They love eachother and take care of the children. Their relationship works for them… I don’t understand how anything can be so wrong if it works.

- Sarah

Posted 03/10/09 02:20 PM

Kate Gosling has absolutely no self-control when it comes to the verbal vomit that comes out of her mouth. She is incredibly condescending, demeaning, and patronizing. I wouldn’t be so harsh if she at least expressed some sort of shame or even slight embarrassment regarding the treatment of her husband, but during an episode that flashed back to older episodes, she had no recognition of the nastiness of her behavior. If anything she became even more nasty (i.e., that episode where she’s wearing the ugly neon green t-shirt). Granted, the blame isn’t entirely on her, as Jon clearly needs to grow a pair and stand up for himself. But that kind of treatment to someone you “love” is unacceptable.

- Anonymous

Posted 03/16/09 04:34 PM

I agree with some of the stuff you said but not all of it. I am a mother of four children and they drive me crazy. I understand why Kate is sometimes screaming at her kids out of frustration because kids (especially at this age) are incredibly difficult. My children are 15, 9, 5 and 3 and sometimes I get as bad as Kate…I couldn’t even imagine if I had six 4-year-olds to deal with. So yes I agree that Kate is a good parent and her screaming constantly is out of frustration and totally understandable. However, I do think she is sometimes very disrespectful to Jon. I watched the video clip in the “Reality TV Mom: Abusive?” blog and some of the things (like Kate telling her children to wear sandals instead of flip flops) I agree with. Most guys just don’t understand. If all 8 of their children wore flip flops and they constantly kept falling off their feet or they lost them it would mostly be Kate picking them up so I think that her logic is reasonable. It takes more work to put on the sandals but you don’t have to be watching them and making sure they stay on the children’s feet. Sometimes though Kate can be extremely rude to her husband which should be more-or-less her equal. One episode she was talking about how Jon was at the gym and then she rolled her eyes which made me angry. She always complains about Jon’s weight and he’s doing something about it and she rolls her eyes as if it is inconveniencing her. Overall I think Kate is a good person but she needs to learn how to respect her husband.

- Claire

Posted 03/23/09 03:33 AM

i think jon is doing nothing wrong kate is very bossy and nothing is ever good enough for her.Jon is always being cooperative with the eight children.He is a great parent. I wouldnt blame anyone for cheating on someone as mean and bossy as Kate.

- britt3

Posted 03/29/09 03:12 AM

i think jon is doing great and i wouldnt blame him for cheating on bossy and uncooperative kate

- brittney

Posted 03/29/09 03:13 AM

i think jon is great its kate that ruins the childrens life. Like come on eating organic all the time like let ur kids live a little. Their only kids ince u no so jon isnt do anything wrong

- brittney

Posted 03/29/09 03:15 AM

If you don’t like Jon or Kate or the show… do something else with your time. I don’t understand why people who say they HATE them even bother writing about them on a blog or website that Jon and Kate will never read. GET A LIFE.

- Hailey

Posted 04/20/09 06:17 PM

Getagrip, I agree with your main point, but there are definitely kids who have tantrums who didn’t learn it from their parents. They learned it from being human beings with the tendency to selfishness built right in, and they had parents who overprotected and indulged their every whims. Some kids throw tantrums because they’re spoiled, not because their parents sometimes get angry. There’s a happy medium of parenting and self-control in there somewhere.

- MarcomMom

Posted 04/30/09 12:37 PM

omg!rotflol, I like drinking gin instead of posting inane comments on crap sites as this, u all should jus die suckas

- Bunz

Posted 05/03/09 11:58 PM

I too get sick and tired of Jon rolling his eyes as Kate is always putting him down or slapping him. Why does she always slaps him and not the kids. I know it’s hard to raise 8 kids but have they ever once said “Stop your screaming and bawling because you don’t get your way!” Most parents don’t allow the continual hitting, arguing, pushing and screaming that they allow these kids to do. Some of the shows make me tired of listening and watching the slug and scream fests. Raising 8 kids is very expensive and how to you think they could have done it if they didn’t take all the freebies that are coming their way? They are doing what they can to support all of them in a nice way. As for Kate having a tummy tuck, why not, her stomach would have never gone back to normal. Why shouldn’t Jon take a free hair transplant??? Some men don’t want to lose their hair and look older. It certtainly didn’t take food away from the kids. I don’t believe Jon had an affair, who would want him? His child support would leave nothing left for a new bride.

- MOM

Posted 05/04/09 08:24 PM

yeah i’m just not convinced that Kate is all the problem, I don’t like Jon and his attitude towards her, he seems very unaffectionate and uncaring when it comes to her.

- lulu

Posted 05/06/09 05:57 PM

Jon should stand up for himself, but not in front of the kids. Just like Kate should not degrade him in front of the children. Children are little sponges: they take in what they see and hear. They will think it is okay to treat other people the way their mother treats their dad. It is okay if children get muddy infact it is healthy for them to explore in the mud, it is okay for children to be children. Watch the new show about the people that have more children, you do not see that mom treating the dad like that, nor do you see her freaking out everytime a little dirt, paint, or mud gets on their clothes. Also, watch the children on Jon and Kate, more time than not they turn to daddy for comfort. That should tell you something.

- Sue

Posted 05/07/09 12:40 PM

Jon is cool and Kate is sexy !!

- Richard Bumface

Posted 05/07/09 02:45 PM

What would Kate do if Jon did do everything she wants? Or better yet did everything before she asked him too what would she have to complain about. It is true that mothers and fathers have a difficult job to do but they don’t have to belittle each other remember kids learn from adults. Also Jon and Kate have put themselves into the spotlight and have made those kids live that life I really feel sorry for the KIDS not the parents

- Carole

Posted 05/09/09 12:30 AM

I read this article, and It has been the first one defending Kate. Everything else I have read talks about how Kate deserves to be cheated on and she got what was coming to her. I was apalled. These people are saying that infidelity is alright as long as the wife deserves it. What happened to it being wrong? My opinion is that none of us have that many kids and we do not know what it is like . I have a 1 year old, I could not imagine having 6 of them at one. I think that Kate is brave and fearless when it comes to raising those children. And if Jon did cheat, shame on him. Shame on putting his family and his kids through that. There is never a right time to cheat!

- Jessica

Posted 05/11/09 09:24 AM

Jon ok his good his looking after his kids

- JUD

Posted 05/12/09 01:47 PM

I totally agree! Everyone who judges the way she acts, is only pretending that they are perfect! TLC knows what makes good TV so of course they are going to edit the show and air parts where Kate loses her cool…I wish people would stop acting like they NEVER do that!

- Rachel

Posted 05/13/09 03:41 PM

It’s apparent Kate has been trying to show the cameras for the last two seasons why she plans on dumbing Jon. She is not going to let anyone have any influence on the show or with her 8 kids and take any credit. It’s all about Kate and Kate keeping everyone’s away from the money she gets for the shows. Kate has been setting up this divorce for two seasons, and letting everyone know she is the main caregiver for these kis even though she’s never home!!! If they split, the kids are better off with their dad.

- wendy

Posted 05/15/09 02:22 PM

i agree on somethings..kate needs to be less controlling. and jon needs to grow up. this world is hard..and in the end we all need each other. but no one should ever be cheated on!!!!! i dont feel sorry for kate or jon..i feel sorry for those 8 little kids. those kids have done nothing wrong, and they will suffer for what their parents have done. instead of hitting, badmouthing, cheating on the other..they should of just sat down and talked about the problems..talking not eye rolling, hitting, saying it the other persons who was the one who made a mistake

- cassie

Posted 05/16/09 09:48 PM

Just like every other celeberity (Lets face it) that is exactly what these people are now. They have created a dynasty that is starting to crumble. I for one am not going to sit here and judge anyone. However I important thing everyone needs to remember, These two consenting adults wanted more children. They knew what they were getting into and realized early on they needed financial backing. So what did they do?, just like alot of other people, they sold themselves to a reality show for money. The lost who they really were as people, as friends, and as parents. If nothing else comes out of this horrible time in all thier lives, How about a little compassion, love and understanding. Each of these two adults needs to wake up and see how distructive things have gotten. For the real sake of the children please stop

- Elizabeth

Posted 05/19/09 10:41 AM