Kate is Great, It's Jon I Hate

Kate is Great, It's Jon I Hate

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Message for those critics of Kate from "Jon and Kate Plus Eight:" You're sexist.

I just finished reading the posts Why I Hate Jon & Kate and Reality TV Mom: Abusive?. I am appalled by the amount of backlash being handed down about "Jon and Kate Plus Eight," the reality show following the chaotic lives of Jon and Kate Gosselin, parents of twins and sextuplets. I am particularly shocked by the anger spewed toward Kate. Kate, competent and organized, is portrayed on the show as a callous, irrational bully. Which is exactly how sexist American viewers like it: capable women are shrews beating down good-hearted men.

She's got eight kids for God's sake! That's the limit that some of us will allow our kids to invite to their birthday parties. And, heck, she has more to deal with than just kids. She's also got her bumbling husband. (One wonders how the two ever got together ... but that's another story.)

In one interview Jon tells the story of when he first met Kate:

"I was doing nothing myself. No career -- I didn't have any goals, didn't want to get married didn't want to have kids just bumming around. I was living with my mother."

Seriously, with his Mommy? TLC should change the name of "Jon and Kate Plus Eight" to "Kate Plus Nine" -- the ninth kid is Jon.

Often, the parenting choices this man-child makes are so misguided, I would defy any mom to keep their cool under the circumstances. Case in point: In a past episode, John is going on a bike ride with five of the eight kids. They're in their helmets and ready to leave from the driveway --- then suddenly Jon takes off WITHOUT THEM. Cut to Kate, who -- concerned for her toddlers' safety -- screams after Jon to wait for the kids. Gee, what a b*tch.

Come on moms, do you think if the cameras were rolling at your house, you wouldn't react the same? Or would you just smile and walk back into the house as your kids rode directly into oncoming traffic?

Kate, like any women who takes charge, gets a bad rap. Yeah, she's harsh at times, but at least she gets the job done. Which is more than you can say for her dumbass husband.

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The children are the victims here! They are being exploited for profit!

- Boni

Posted 05/19/09 11:53 PM

The Duggers funny! she doesnt need to yell or have a tv crew. she just has more kids to raise the next. Come on a seven year old changing diapers for a chore thats wrong. and having a seven year old so well behaved they do it is abnormal.

- Barbie

Posted 05/20/09 06:24 AM

They both need to grow up….And Please do something with that whiney Maddie.

- dawn

Posted 05/24/09 10:42 PM

I just want to say that is the most refreshing post i have read about Kate. It kills me when I read people bashing her for being a ‘bully’. her husband shows no emotions, makes half-hearted attempts to be a father and yet everyone gives the woman hell. She has 8 kids….lets see someone keep their cool in her situation.

- Amy

Posted 05/24/09 10:43 PM

It should be named Kate plus Nine - inches, if anything.

- Andrew

Posted 05/24/09 11:07 PM

HelLO folks! Kate is touring the country TALKING about parenting…leaving Jon TO parent! And he is doing a better job of it-by her own admittion (She told that to our church gathering). “Things are going great at home. I return after a week or so ..and I try to take control. And there is Jon and the kids saying, ‘that’s not how we do it anymore.’ And I have to admit, they are doing very well. Not MY way of doing things, but they are doing just fine.” She wants to fame and money…and will ignore parenting to get that. So that’s to be admired by those on a mommy-site? As a been-there done-that mom, I can say…to be admired.. you STAY and do, not travel away and talk about it.

- McKenna

Posted 05/25/09 07:06 AM

Jon is a passive-agressive man who retaliates with rolling eyes and little muttered comments. Kate had 8 children and she tries to deal. This man-boy wants something different. And we know what THAT is. Kate should work on how she talks to people, but with keeping 8 small kids free from turning the house into a garbage dump and keeping them alive, maybe that isn’t her priority. Jon is an a@@hole!!!!!!!!

- Anonymous

Posted 05/25/09 09:04 AM

ITA With this. Jon is a typical person who loves for someone to take control because they are so laid back they need someone else doing all the leg work and making all the tough decisions, but then get’s to play victim because they are being “talked down to” or being “told what to do” by the more responsible person in the relationship. Puhlease. I don’t buy this “woa is me” crap from Jon.

- Anna

Posted 05/25/09 10:57 AM

Kate goes on her business trips as she keeps referring to them. Well, her BUSINESS should be staying her A** at home and raising those children she so desperately wanted. Jon is at least being a good Dad. All the $ has gone to Kate’s head. She thinks she is some famous Hollywood star or something but really she is no more than a pimp. She pimped out all her children so she could have a nice house and free things. I wonder if she is even putting any of the money away for the kids. I highly doubt it. She seems to be enjoying the fruits of their labor…especially Jon’s labor. He is raising those beautiful kids, not her. He should divorce her and take all the kids and the house. Then he could build a huge fence and keep TLC out.

- Anonymous

Posted 05/26/09 02:01 AM

If I where Jon I would shut her up so fast. Which job is harder? I don’t know but Jon does BOTH - day job + home with kids and wife in the evening and weekends. They should of never had that many kids but the dynamic would change drastically if Kate was replaced or Jon grew a pair.

- George

Posted 05/26/09 09:49 PM

This is hard for both parties but more importantly the 8 kids. I pray that Kate can realize where she went wrong and also Jon so that they can together get counseling and rekindle the fire. Best wishes for a reunited couple.

- Pamela

Posted 05/27/09 03:34 PM

Jon work? Most of the time he didn’t work. That is why Kate was working weekends when the kids were babies. If you read some other blogs and news stories Jon might have not quit jobs but been helped out. Jon also even if he doesn’t thinks the show will be around forever. He has no plan for when it ends, just live off of the money from the show? NOT, raising 8 kids is expensive, that money will be gone fast! That is why Kate writes books now as to establish a career other than Jon and Kate Plus 8. I think she has years of frustration behind their marriage long before the 6 were born waiting for him to decide to get a career. I think he is too used to his parents taking care of him. He travelled and lived with mommy. No real working for a living, I don’t think he has plans to work. That is where Kate gets frustrated. How many of us women can take a night off from parenting and go to the bar when our spouse is out working? Not many but because he is a guy it is okay to get a night off. That is what he kept saying on the new show he just wants some time off. GEE I thought parenting is full time work. Oh right this guy doesn’t like to work!

- May

Posted 05/27/09 04:25 PM

Don’t have all those children if you can’t take it! I get so tired of people saying “well, if you don’t have (insert crazy number here) kids then you don’t know what it is like.” Fine but if having that many kids means turning into a b**** then don’t have so many damn kids!

- A. Mom

Posted 05/28/09 12:33 PM

I can’t believe how everyone on this board actually believes that Kate is sitting at home taking care of those kids all by herself!! Take a look at the post by RoxyRose, she is the only person that hit it on the nose, 8 kids or not if I had all the benefits she has raising kids I would sit at home all day too, I’m absolutely positive that kate has very LITTLE stress just because she has all the help in the world, after all how is she getting out jetting all over the place to sell her books and do talks?????? Who’s watching the kids then??. Kate is a very mean woman, comes off like a total B*$&%, and really has no respect for anyone other than herself. I laugh at the show every time I watch it and the majority of people I know that have a clue about the show agree that Kate is overbearing and pretty much just plain MEAN! I would never treat anyone with the disrespect she shows Jon. As for all the other posters on here complaining that their husbands are just as childish, well that makes me wonder just how YOU are as a wife. Remember, it takes two and if you treat one another with respect then your relationships will last much longer.

- Jon

Posted 05/30/09 05:58 PM

I can’t believe how judgemental everyone is being about these people. I like watching the show and most of you must also, or there would not be so much speculation. I think Kate may have a touch of ocd, and she could be fixed with prozac, but John knew how she was before he married her, my only complaint is why the renewed wedding vows and media hoopla when Jon wanted out all along. Kate seems to be more intelligent than Jon, but maybe it is just Jon doesn’t present himself well. We are not these people we have no idea what it is like to have so many children. No, they are not exploiting their kids anymore than the duggars or the other family with tons of kids. I think her kids seem healthy and happy. I wish the best of luck to both of them . It is hard enough to be married in these times without the entire country becoming involved.

- REnee

Posted 05/31/09 10:11 AM

I totally agree with you. Kate has eight kids and the primary responsibility for the show that provides for them. Jon’s monosyllabic grunts do not a show make. It must be terribly stressful being her. Jon hit his 30s and decided he wanted to be out having fun. Even if he wasn’t cheating, he was having “friends” hang out in their bikinis on the lawn. How would everyone have reacted if Kate had a man in his skivvies on the lawn?

- Catherine

Posted 06/22/09 10:52 PM

Someone should take Jon out and beat some sense into him. If he realized what he was doing to those kids he would just stop. He is the most selfish person I have seen in a long time. Probably 10 years or so, since my husband ran off with a 17 year old leaving me with my 3 kids, and no job, no way to support the kids or no home. Jon is a selfish bastard who by all rights needs a good beating, or what ever it takes to get him to realize that if he was doing this for his kids as he says over and over, that he wouldn’t. Grow up Jon! Work it out, and fix your childrens life before it is too late.

- mom2bbt

Posted 06/24/09 02:09 PM

Jon is a waste. She was out supporting the family. She probably knew she had to “strike while the iron was hot” and write the books and tour to support the kids. Jon was not mature enough to STAY AT HOME with his kids while she was working outside the home. He was out at the bars with other women. Such double standards….. Now, he is “exicted” about getting on with his life???? He is “only 32”, well those children are only 8 and 5 and deserve better.

- jj

Posted 06/25/09 03:13 AM

I hatee jon.

- meli

Posted 07/21/09 01:11 PM

I think people are jealous of Kate because she is beautiful, smart, organized, productive, etc. Other people feel like losers compared to her. Jon is an irresponsible, immoral, lazy, unintelligent, short balding guy. There’s a stereo type about Asian men having small anatomy, and I feel that is part of his problem. Kate is much too smart, to beautiful and too much woman for John’s micro package. It’s really John’s loss — he’s loosing a woman that’s much too good for him. He’s also loosing his kids, and his family. When his kids get older and realize that he left their mom for some 21 year old pot head, they will most likely hate him. I feel really bad for Kate that the media has villified her. She is a good person. No one has 8 kids to get fame or fortune. If she’s focused on money — it’s for her kids. I hope that Kate will meet a really great guy who treats her with love and respect and who will help her raise her kids. I know that it will be hard for her to meet and date people since she has 8 kids. But, there is someone out there for Kate plus 8. Sending Kate and the children good wishes. As for John — you are a disgrace to the human race. It disgusts me that you left your wife and 8 kids to go party with pot heads. You’re the one who is fame and money hungry. You couldn’t care less for your family. You don’t deserve them — you are a pathetic looser.

- RJD

Posted 07/22/09 02:19 AM