He's Sleeping with Someone Else

He's Sleeping with Someone Else

Monday, September 15, 2008

filed under: love & sex

Guest blogger mom-on-the-edge: My husband has a mistress. She goes to bed with him every night. It's his ... Blackberry. I mean, Crackberry. He's addicted! The way he caresses the keys, I swear he touches that thing more than he touches me. Early in the morning, late at night, at the dinner table...

His new job gave him one last week. Just when I thought our trial separation couldn't get any worse, there he is tap, tap, tapping away on it all the time. Our son got his MMR shots. Yes, the scary 'could it cause autism?' shot in the arm. Did my husband call? No, he texted. In fact, he doesn't call for days now. Blackberry: The ultimate tool for passive aggressive people to be even more passive. Who knew that was possible? Maybe if I texted him at the dinner table, we could actually have a conversation.

How can we work on our relationship and learn how to communicate when all this communications technology is working against me? I wish he would put down his PDA and try a little PDA. It just might help bring the spark back.

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My husband has a blackberry. He even has all his emails sent to his phone. He leaves it on the bedstand at night, checks his mail while we’re on the interstate (and HE’S driving!). It’s insane. However, it’s completely necessary to his work as a business owner. When I get really bothered by it, I threaten to throw it out the window, and I give him to the count of 10 to put it away. Works every time!

- Natalie

Posted 09/15/08 06:51 AM

I hate to admit I am the one who cheats with my blackberry in our relationship. I don’t know how to stop though..because my work requires it.

- shanna

Posted 09/16/08 12:39 AM

I got to the breaking point. Imagine seeing pictures at various family places and there he is in the background with his blackberry. Three days a week I go into my son’s Taekwondo class to look at a great picture taken at belt testing, and my husband is in the back on the blackberry. Family vacation pictures became the same thing. I put my foot down! I don’t want the way he missed their childhood documented any longer.

- Jen

Posted 09/16/08 11:24 AM