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Parents Peeved Over Curse Word List

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Many are protesting in front of school.

When school administrators at one California middle school warned students not to use curse words in class, someone had the bright idea to actually show students a list of 21 "unacceptable" words on an overhead projector. WTF?

teacher in class

Teachers did not discuss the words but simply posted them on the chalkboard and told students they are "zero tolerance" words and unacceptable at school.

A teacher leaked the list to a parent, and word spread like wildfire. Many parents are angry that the words were presented to their children without being notified first.

One mom said her seventh grade son had no idea what some of the words and phrases meant. "He came home and said, 'Mommy, what's a blow j*b?"

The school principal agreed that in hindsight, he should have contacted parents about the lesson plan first, thus giving parents the opportunity to opt out of the lesson.

What would you have done?

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Anonymous September 30, 2008, 9:19 AM

Are you kidding? Who’s the idiot who came up with this idea? Kids know bad words and which they should not use. They don’t need a list to know if something is unacceptable.

Morons. (was that on there?)

Beckie September 30, 2008, 10:59 AM

Another winning moment for our local Fresno School District! And people ask me why I homeschool..

Kirstie September 30, 2008, 11:54 AM

I find it really, really hard to believe that a seventh grade boy doesn’t know what a blowjob is. Most of the boys I knew in the seventh grade were GETTING blowjobs … and I was only there a handful of years ago.

I grew up in a nice suburban neighborhood, by the way.

a. September 30, 2008, 6:20 PM

a seventh grader who doesn’t know what a blowjob is? that’s surprising.

Eileen September 30, 2008, 10:49 PM

Guess my trick of trapping the school about the curse words that are forbidden being made available for the young of this state.

Judy Bloom’s books are written at 2nd grade level. She likes to use curse words in them. Can your second grader refrain from using those words when they are taught how to read, write and spell them from none other than the very people who will suspend them if they mistakenly use them?

Hope the school gets shut down over that outrage!

Funding should be suspended permanently at that school.

Perps who do this to children need to line in the looney bin or even the local prison. It’s child abuse plain and simple.

Ginger September 30, 2008, 11:26 PM

Im a mother in southern Utah of an 11 year old boy. If you have a child that really comlpained about this list then maybe you need to get your child out in the real world where people cuss all day and there parents wont be there to plug their ears for them. What is the big deal they are words and they will hear them. lol you parents crack me up grow up and worry about what your child does with their own words not what they are going to hear and or say some day.

Ms. H. October 1, 2008, 12:08 AM

As an educator, I cannot even FATHOM doing what that teacher did. I find it appalling and unprofessional. As a parent, I would go directly to the school and discuss the matter with the teacher and principal. While students may be exposed to curse words outside, and sometimes inside, of school, the learning environment is supposed to nurture and make them feel safe. How could this be accomplished by doing what that teacher did? In two words…it can’t!

Laughing October 1, 2008, 9:58 AM

OK people, get real. How are teachers supposed to let the children know what not to say if they can’t let them know which words are not allowed? Different people have different views of curse words. Some feel some of the “curse” words are not really curse words at all. Take A*s for instance. It is a word that is found in the Bible. However, some people view it as a curse word.

Look, the school stated it has a “zero tolerance” policy for certain words. If you don’t warn the children ahead of time which words are not going to be tolerated, how can you enforce the “zero tolerance” policy? You must let them know what is intolerable first. Then if they say it, then you can enforce the zero tolerance punishment. There is no way in this world that you can tell a child that there are certain words he/she can not say but not tell them what the words are. I will almost guarantee you that if the school had not let the children know what words were forbidden and just implemented the policy, then some child was expelled or suspended for saying the word, these same parents who are complaining would be jumping up and down threatening a law suit because the school didn’t warn their child which words were unacceptable before putting the zero tolerance rule into effect.

Anonymous October 1, 2008, 11:00 AM


mom22 October 4, 2008, 12:32 AM

so is anyone else curious about what made the list?

Lighten Up, People October 4, 2008, 6:07 AM

mom 22
I, too,want to see the list!!!

I think this is pretty funny. Totally inappropriate, but funny still.

I also am curious what “zero tolerance” means in this case. Surely they don’t intend to expell a child for using profanity. That’s the ridiculous part of the story.

Also, how bold are kids these days, using this language where adults can hear them. These words were reserved for when mom and dad were away from home when I was little. I wouldn’t have dreamed of talking like that at school.

Eileen, prison??? Let’s come back down to reality a little. Prison should be reserved for the teachers recieving the blow j*b!

Janine A. October 5, 2008, 11:56 AM

I think it’s fine if my children, especially as they grow older, use the word “cr*p” at times when it’s appropriate. I don’t tolerate anything higher than that, though.

Big K October 5, 2008, 4:59 PM

Figures, California dreaming.

Anonymous October 6, 2008, 1:20 PM

21 words!! Holy Baloney I didn’t know there were that many. Seriously, though, lighten up. They’re 7th graders. In 7th grade we rattled off Carlin’s 7 dirty words to the theme song from Bonanza. And that lady claims her son’s never heard of a blow job before? This I highly doubt.

Somebody did a similar thing to us in 9th grade though…we all gathered for a drug symposium, and just as the visitor was halfway finished telling us how easy it is to cook up a batch of meth in the bathtub with only sudafed and…

the principle nearly slide-tackled him off the stage.

Melissa October 7, 2008, 6:55 AM

For those of you who are offended by the list, I would say kudos to you as you are probably not saying them around your child. But, the fact is, that they will hear these words somehow and wouldn’t you rather have them know ahead of time that these are not acceptable words to use in most settings if really at all (especially by children) than to have them go somewhere and just use the word casually not knowing it is not either polite or socially acceptable causing more embarrasment or discipline.

I think this is where where responsible parenting comes in to play as we should educate our own children of these words and set the guidelines. But, in the same respect, the school has a responsibility to let you know prior to putting this informaton out there that you will approve.

Michelle October 8, 2008, 12:55 AM


omgimacheermom October 8, 2008, 5:24 PM

People please! Kids in MOST 7th grade classrooms are tossing these words at one another (usually out of adult ear shot), whether they know the definition or not. Trust me I teach. Would I post them on an over-head projector in my classroom? DUH, NO! Parents and children know what is profanity and what is not. If your kid has seen a PG movie or has access to the internet, they know more than some of you think. If the school had issues with “grey area” words like crap and OMG, then it could have spelled those out for parents. Too many idiots (probably on the list) are in public education!

Anna October 9, 2008, 12:27 PM

way to go school administrators, why not show 10 year olds porn movies so that they learn what they are not suppose to do.

Robin October 10, 2008, 8:10 AM

Oh give me a break some of you, are you really that naive or just plain ignorant.
Any parent who believes lil Johnny had no clue what a BJ was or that his mouth is pure and clean, you are the one who needs reprimanding, not the teacher.
As a Teachers aide in an upscale area I can assure all parents these children were not damaged by the list. Middle school students swear, cuss just as much, if not more then any other grade/age group. In all honesty they probably could of informed the teacher of a couple that were not listed.

For parent’s who have not had “the talk” (you know the sex one) with a child from sixth grade up, you better get on it, unless that is, you would rather they learn about it from their peers, if they haven’t already.
It is time to pop the bubble you put yourself in and face reality, the real world your child lives in.
If only we lived in a perfect world, unfortunately not one of us do. As adults we can do the best thing for our child by preparing, educating them in what some feel are forbidden, shh areas before peers do.

Anonymous October 10, 2008, 8:29 AM

Sounds like the boy gave his mom a snow job about a blow job.

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