Aries
Taurus
Gemini
Cancer
Leo
Virgo
Libra
Scorpio
Sagittarius
Capricorn
Aquarius
PiscesMom DOES Like You Best
One in six moms admits she prefers one child to the other. Do you?
In a recent article in the UK's Daily Mail, three moms sat down and openly admitted they love one of their kids more deeply than the other. They all defended their choices with various reasons -- some said their favorite was most like them, while others said the birth of one child was so difficult, it triggered a preference for the other one.
If you're appalled, keep reading.
•16% of Daily Mail readers (that's 1 in 6) admit they love one child more than the other.
•Half of the 1,000 respondents said they love their children equally -- but in different ways.
•Only 1/3 said they have the same affection for all their offspring.
The study also found that few women would openly admit to playing favorites because they're embarrassed.
•Psychologists say moms often have a hard time bonding with their oldest child because first-time pregnancies are usually the most difficult, thanks to the unfamiliar demands of motherhood.
•But this begs the question -- does the least loved child ever suspect your true feelings? And if so, what are the long-term effects of feeling the most loved -- or least loved? And since it's typical for teens to rebel, is it normal to love your kid, but not particularly like him?
You may feel guilty if you fall into one these categories, but can you really control your feelings?
Tell us -- do you love all your children equally?
- share:
-
-
-
more:
- |
- 11 Comments
I can absolutely, categorically state that I love both my children equally. I cannot imagine loving one child more than the other. However, I am the mother of non-identical twin girls. This may make it easier for me to love my children in equal measure. I’m not sure how it would be if I had another child. I don’t think it’s possible for me to love a child more than I do my current two, and I doubt I would love a third child less.
I can say that I love both of my children equally. And what I truly love about them is they are both unique. They don’t even look alike. Having children who are different in personality and temprament has helped me not only to know and accept that I can love two of my children equally as much, but I have a greater appreciation for humans in general because we all bring something to the table!
I have 3 children and without a doubt, I love them equally. I cannot imagine having to love one or choose one over the other and I definitely can’t imagine life without them. They are truly a treasure
i love all three of mine with all my heart and equally - but right or wrong, i expect things from one that i don’t from the other. that may have to do with me, their birth order, their personalitites…who knows. loving them equally is certain, but liking them and accepting them equally….not as certain.
I have two boys and I love them as equally as I believe is possible. When my first son was born it was love at first sight. I had never loved anyone more. He was almost 3 when my second son was born. I didn’t bond with him in the same way right away. I loved him very much but that indescribable mother son bond came about 2 months later. I adore both of my boys and sometimes I fear that I may be showing the younger of the two more attention. I want them both to feel loved equallly. I wouldn’t trade either of them for the world. I think that your just love your kids in different ways maybe due to personality differences. Its not more or less, just different.
I have two girls and I love them both equally. However, depending on the day I may *like* one better than the other. If one is having huge tantrums all the live long day while the other is playing happily by herself, I’ll have a preference that particular day for the latter. The next day, the “angel” may decide not to listen to one bloody thing I say and the “devil” will be well behaved and it will switch.
I think it’s normal to like one more than the other depending on what’s going on, but I can’t imagine LOVING one more than the other.
I have three kids and when #2 and #3 arrived, I definitely did not love them “as much.” Love grows over time. But I actually ask myself sometimes now if I love one more than the other, and I have to say I honestly don’t. But there are definite days I prefer one over the other.
I notice this with my MIL. Her first is “the golden child” (name given by her other two kids). Although my husband seems not to be bothered, his sister, on the other hand, resents her mother for it. And like young kids, they both still do things to get her attention and approval.
I have 2 children of my own that are younger then the 2 that I raised from ages 4&6 (step-children) and I can honestly say I love all 4 of them the same. My husband use to say I had to love my 2 more, but now that they are in highschool, he says I don’t like my 2 as much as the older 2. (by the way I call them ALL my childern and some people don’t know I am a stepmom).
Well, he can now see it is the stages of growing up in life that has to do with how much I like/love them. I would die, and kill to keep all 4 safe. And now that I have my first grandchild, well I KNOW I love her just as much as the other 4.
It may seem like playing favorites at times, only because of what they have going on in their lives…2 are highly social and 2 are not, a different 2 are extreamly smart and the other 2 need coaching, so often times I have to pay more attention to one more than the other. But I think that has nothing to do with “Love”, like maybe, but not love. Believe me there are times when I don’t like all 4!
I have three beautiful girls 6,5 and 9 months. I cannot believe that someone can actually love one child more than the others! I love all three of my children in the same capacity. I try to shift my focus on particular days to give each one their “time”, but I definitely have the same feelings for each one. However, I do agree that I treat them somewhat differently due to their personal characteristics.
My mother always favored my older sister more than me and still does to this day. DH and others notice it all the time.